I’m not really a fan of the term “plenty of fish in the sea.” It’s very cliché, but damnit it’s a true one. I would rather use the term: Abundance Mentality or more specifically, the realization that women in this world are plentiful. It’s a mindset that’s extremely hard to obtain, but if you can reach it, then you will sure be outcome independent. Instead of fearing that you will mess up with a girl, you will embrace every interaction as it’s happening and let everything run its course. Why? Because you know for a fact that if it doesn’t work with this one, then another one will come along. Let’s do a little Q&A:
How do I reach “abundance mentality”?
You’ll have to go on a lot of dates and put yourself out there. The only way to truly reach that point is to experience women. If you need help getting dates then go here. Meeting and approaching women is the key to your success. The more people you meet, the more you’ll understand how many people you can have experiences with. The world has a never-ending abyss of beautiful women. You need to open up your eyes and find them. Do whatever it takes to dive into this world.
What if I still don’t reach “abundance mentality”?
This means that you’re either not putting yourself out there enough or you’re not focusing on the present. You absolutely must get over your ex and realize the number of women that are out there in this world. The girl who dumped you was NOT “the one.” You know how I know? Because “the one” you want will want and desire you as well. The woman you’ll end up with will want you so bad it hurts. And if it doesn’t work out with that one, then you’ll meet another. Then that one wasn’t “the one.” It’s not only your mentality, but it’s true.
What if I don’t want to put that much effort into it?
Then, my friend, unfortunately you may never reach that state of mind. Abundance mentality is only truly rewarded to men who have failed time and time again. It’s given to those who have gained confidence through their efforts on the playing field. The things that possess more value are the ones that take hard work.
What will it feel like when I have “abundance mentality”?
You will feel free. You’ll never have to worry about how to find a quality woman. Your failures and successes will all be the same. When one leaves, another will be right there for your taking. The pressure of meeting a woman will decrease because you’ll have the confidence and strength to find another one. You will finally realize that women are everywhere and each one has a good chance at being your next date.
So you’re saying I should just never settle down?
Nope, not at all. You have your own goals. Maybe you just want to get better at dating, or you’re trying to find a girlfriend, get married, or just have a bunch of sex. Whatever it is, go for it. You just have to remember, that if it doesn’t work out with the one you have, then there will be someone else who will come along.
I want “abundance mentality” right now. What’s my first step?
Leave your house. Start approaching as many women as you can. Start dating as much as you can. Throw yourself into the social abyss. Start joining clubs. Volunteer. Make an online dating profile. Take the plunge into society and do all of these things. In enough time (and it won’t be quick), you’ll realize that for every awesome girl you meet, there are 10 other awesome ones waiting right behind her.
Got more questions? Need answers? You can always e-mail me firstname.lastname@example.org and I will be sure to respond!
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