From Text To Sex: The Ultimate Guide For Texting Girls

What’s your ultimate goal when it comes to getting girls?

Is it to go out on a ton of dates?

Is it to get a hot girlfriend?

Is it to have many, many more nights filled with wild sex?

Or, do you want to get married?

Whatever your goal may be, it’s important to know how to text women. And why is that?

Because you can’t always communicate face-to-face. Texting fills the time when you’re out of sight, and keeps you from becoming “out of mind.”

Getting a girl’s phone number is only the first step in seducing her via text.

To get the girl, you need to know when to text, what to text, how often…there’s actually a lot of information to consider.

In this post we’ll talk about:

  • How to text in a way that grabs attention and gets her excited;
  • How to utilize emoticons to make conversations fun and engaging;
  • How to get a girl dying to go on a date with you;
  • What to say when a girl stops texting you;
  • How to get a girl in the mood with steamy sexts, until she’s practically begging to meet up with you;
  • The most common mistakes guys make when texting girls—and how to avoid them;
  • And just as importantly, how to stop texting a girl in a way that keeps her waiting with anticipation.

If you don’t know flirt with a girl using texts, she’ll get bored very quickly. Do you know what happens when she gets bored?

She stops replying to your texts. She starts texting other guys—guys who excite her. Your phone goes silent, and you can’t figure out what went wrong.

Look, we’ve all been there before. I know it’s frustrating as hell, and that’s why I wrote this post.

After reading this guide and learning how to increase the allure of your text messages, you’ll be able to get any girl—any girl who likes you enough to give out her number, that is—to not only text back, but want to meet up, date and hook up.

If you have a girl’s number right now and you’re ready to turn that number into a date, then go here to learn how.

Let’s get started.

What To Say In Your First Message

The impression you make with your first texts is not likely to change, which is why these are the most crucial.

These opening messages must be exciting, intriguing and interactive.

This is where most men screw up. Texts like “Hi,” “What’s up?” and “How’s it going?” are lame and generic.

These are almost worse than not sending texts at all. And why is that?

Because girls respond back to your texts based on 3 important factors:

1. How she feels at that moment. 

If she’s feeling happy because her day is going well, then she’s more likely to reply.

But if she’s feeling moody, frustrated or ill, then she’s probably not going to want to text anybody, especially a strange new guy.

2. How she feels about the person texting her.

A girl will almost always text her Mom or friends back right away or anybody else who she’s really close to.

If it’s someone for her work, she’ll text them back. If it’s related to a nail or hair appointment, she’ll definitely text them back.

But for a guy that she met a bar while she was out with her friends, or a guy from school, or a guy who’s a friend of a friend…you can see how your texts are already at the bottom of the pyramid.

3. How she feels about the texts themselves.

A girl’s isn’t going to respond to a text that doesn’t make her feel anything.

But if she gets a text that makes her smile or laugh, or grabs her attention and piques her interest, or gets her horny and excited…then she’s much more likely to respond back.

When a girl doesn’t respond, your first thought is probably that she’s ignoring you. While that may be true, it’s just as often not. Keep these factors in mind before you jump to conclusions.

Now that we’ve laid the groundwork, let’s get back to what you should say in those vital first messages.

Simply put, your first text message should mention what brought you together. How you met, where you met, what you were doing, who you were with…these details are extremely important.

By being hyper-specific with your first message, those (hopefully) awesome feelings she felt with you will come rushing back.

For instance, if you met her at a party, then say something about the party. Ask her if she enjoyed it, or talk about the people that were there, or mention something funny that happened.

If you met her at a bar, say something about the bar, or the crazy girls dancing on the counter, or where you went after drinking.

Here are some examples of first text messages that you can send to a girl:

“I like that place we all were at at the end of the night. What was it called?”

“I think that bartender was having a few too many himself. What do you think?”

“My coffee only lasted me about an hour this time. Must’ve been thirsty. How about you?”

“So did you end up getting that book you had? What was it called? How to meet a handsome guy at a book store? ;)”

“You get those vegetables you were looking at? I did. Got me some romanesco, kohlrabi, salsify, celeriac, and kai-lan. Can’t forget the kai-lan. How bout you?”

“I love going to the farmer’s market. You never know what you’re gonna find. Today I got kale, chard, broccoli, and a cute girl’s number.”

“Need to study later? I know this quiet spot in the library with a cool view. I’ll share it with you if you promise to keep it to yourself.”

“I’m in the dining hall right now. Not sure what’s good here. You hungry?”

“I think we could both use a break from studying. Want to go see a movie later?”

“You’re a pool shark aren’t you? What other shady skills should I know about?”

See how these examples take her back to the frame of mind of where she was when she first met you? That’s what you want to do to get her texting you back.

So however you two met, before texting her for the first time, think about what it was that brought you together and how to bring it up in a way that’s both funny and interesting.

Doing this not only reminds her of the fun that she had when she met you, but also subconsciously gets her thinking about doing it again…with you.

11 Principles For Successfully Flirting With Girls By Text

Below are 11 principles to follow whenever you’re texting a girl you like. By following these guidelines, you will learn to make the most out of every text. And if you screw up, you won’t be scratching your head trying to figure out why.

1. Learn How To Spell

If your texts read like a 12-year-old’s Twitter feed, no quality woman is going to take you seriously. You don’t have to write at a PhD level, but making an effort regarding spelling and grammar goes a long way towards showing you give a damn.

2. Be Creative, Unique, and Different

Put some thought into your texts so you stand out from everybody else. If you’re gonna say “Hi,” always add it on to something else. A single word provides no substance, and does little or nothing to help you schedule a date or a booty call.

3. Bring Value To Her Life 

Most guys text girls with the goal of getting something from her, whether it be her attention, her time or her body. Be different. Offer something of value and reap the rewards later.

4. Keep Them Fun and Lighthearted 

Always keep your texts fun, playful and lighthearted. Don’t bring up serious subjects or get into drama with your texts. Save these for in-person conversations.

5. Keep Them Short and Sweet

Keep your texts to only about one or two sentences each. If you write too much, it can make you look desperate. You want her to know that you have a life.

6. Ask Her Questions 

Asking questions about her shows that you care about the girl. Keep these simple and relevant to what she’s been doing lately to keep the conversation going. Avoid interview-style questions where it feels like you’re interrogating her instead of getting to know her.

7. Be Thoughtful and Considerate

Obviously your goal here is to set up a date or build up attraction to make sex happen. But that doesn’t mean you should completely ignore her feelings. If you know she had a hard day at work, don’t say something insensitive or pester her. Learn when to cool off and give her space.

8. Put a Smile On Her Face

If you can get a girl to smile when she reads one of your texts, she’ll respond back to you nearly every time.

9. Always Be Flirting With Her

Remember what your primary goal here. Your goal is not to text. Texting is how you achieve your goal.

Your goal is to meet in person. Therefore, all of your texts should push to achieve a meet-up in some way. That means always be flirtatious—stop flirting, get friend-zoned. It’s simple.

10. Don’t Be So Readily Available 

After you get a girl’s number, wait a little while before texting her. If you’re really excited and can’t wait to text her, then wait a few days. Good things come to those who wait.

11. Always Be The One To End It

If the conversation is going really well, keep her wanting more of you by ending it. Yes, you read that correctly.

Always be the one to end it first. Never keep a conversation going longer than necessary or you risk running out of steam.

How To Use Emoticons 🙂

Girls love emoticons. You probably already knew that, but these little smiley faces should be part of every man’s texting toolkit, too.

They convey to her that you’re a fun guy with a playful, light-hearted attitude.

The best emoticons to use are the simplest ones. If you use fancy ones or those really long ones that create a picture, that’s when you’re over doing it.

The main purpose of using emoticons is to make your conversations with her more fun and intriguing.

Example: “Want to see a movie?”

And now with an emoticon: “Want to see a movie? ;)”

See how adding a wink makes seeing a movie sound way more fun?

They can also be used to make bold invitations easier for her to say yes to.

Example: “Want to watch a movie at my place?”

Whether she wants to or not, this type of invitation naturally brings up second thoughts about being with you because she’ll be alone with you at your place.

And now with an emoticon: “Want to watch a movie at my place? 💡 ”

This makes it easier to accept because now it sounds lighthearted and less like you just want to have sex.

Using emoticons also makes your communication with her clearer by adding context in the absence of facial expressions and tone of voice.

When you’re communicating with someone and they can’t see your face or your body language, then it’s easy for either party to misunderstand and take offense.

But by adding the appropriate emoticons to your texts, you make that less likely to happen.

If a girl is using emoticons when she’s texting with you, it’s usually a sign that she likes you.

Girls usually only use emoticons with people that they’re close to or want to be closer to.

That’s really the best way to use emoticons—to gauge a girl’s interest.

Let her send more emoticons than you to express how she feels. If you use too many smilies in your texts, it’ll look like you’re trying too hard. Use them sparingly and appropriately.

Using emoticons should be done organically, in the moment, and relevantly to the conversation you’re having.

They should never be sent out of the blue or as a way for getting a conversation started.


Here are 20 emoticons and their meanings that you can start using in your texts to make your conversations more fun, interesting, and engaging.

Of course, emoticons aren’t the only way to be flirtatious. Check out this video for more tips on how to flirt via text:

How To Get a Girl Out On a Date With Texts

To get a guy out on a date, all a girl has to do is ask him out.

But for a guy to get a girl to go out on a date him by text, he has to do things very differently.

However, there are some little tricks I want to teach you to minimize the rejections, flaking and disinterest that I know plague so many text conversations.

First and foremost…

For maximum success, ask out girls that you think already like you.

If you only ask out girls that you like—but don’t like you—you’ll have less chance of success.

Before texting, have an idea for a date already planned. Know what you’d like to do with her, where you guys can go and when it’s going to take place.

Don’t offer up vague date ideas to her like “Want to hang out sometime?” Doing this makes it very likely that she’ll either say no or flake out on you.

If you just met her recently, then try make the first date something short but social and interactive, like having drinks together.

It’s usually a good idea not go to a movie or somewhere that’s new to the both of you for the first time because these can get awkward pretty easily and then it won’t be fun for either of you.

Here are some examples you can use to ask a girl out on a date with text:

“I’m thinking about grabbing a coffee somewhere. Wanna join me?”

“I need a Starbucks right now. Meet me there!”

“So which Starbucks have you NOT been to yet?”

“Wanna get buzzed? As in caffeine?”

“I need a coffee. You want a coffee. I’m sure we can find a compromise.”

“Let’s get ice cream somewhere.”

“I’m thinking about having dinner for my last meal of the day. You thinking the same?

“I like you. I think you like me too. Let’s go have dinner at a nice restaurant.”

Before asking her out, start the conversation with some small talk and ask casual questions about her day or what she’s been up to lately to gauge her level of interest and mood.

If she seems to be in a good mood and open to chilling, then ask her out.

But if she seems upset for some reason or just not interested, then don’t ask her out.


To increase your chances of getting her to say yes to a date, give her specific time options so her thinking goes from “Do I want to?” to “What time is good for me?”

When she says yes, end the conversation and let her know what you’re doing to do to have everything ready and then tell her you’ll see her later.

If she says no, then say it was good talking to her and end the conversation. Unless of course, if after saying no, she offers up other alternatives, then find something else that you guys can do.

How To Get a Girl Who Has Stopped Texting You To Start Texting You Back Again

Before you even read this section, I highly recommend that you watch my video on self-control when it comes to texting and girls:

If you’re trying to get a girl who has stopped texting you to start texting you again, then you’ve got to re-engage.

Start by sending her a simple text that is fun, playful and doesn’t require a quick response.

Always make your texts fun, laid back and lighthearted. Never try to get a girl to text you back by using guilt or begging. These tactics never work.

Don’t ask her why she’s not texting you. Don’t even acknowledge it. Instead, try to make her laugh by making up crazy and outrageous reasons for why she hasn’t texted you in a while.

Here are some examples that you can use to get a girl who has stopped texting you to text you back again:

“Your responses are too fast for me. Slow down speedy!”

“Did you faint after receiving that last text from me. It happens. So what else is new?”

“Hey there! Haven’t heard from you in a while. Get kidnapped by E.T. and his pals or something?”

“I didn’t get your Christmas card this year? What’s up? You just not celebrating this one?”

“Hey there Sleeping Beauty. Time for you to wake up. Can I get you a toothbrush?”

“You fall down a rabbit hole and get captured by an army of playing cards? Need me to come down there and show that Queen of Hearts who’s boss?”

“Oh no. Did I miss your birthday? Was that this year again? Nevermind. Happy Birthday!”

If you make a joke out of her not texting you, you’ll be showing her that you’re not holding any hard feelings and then she won’t be worried about replying.

How To Get The Sexting Started

Sexting is a great way to get a girl excited about seeing you. More importantly, sexting makes whatever you want to do with her much easier to get started in person.

It’s also a great way to learn her likes and dislikes ahead of time.

If you’ve been flirting with a girl but haven’t kissed her yet, sexting can help make this happen because she’ll get warmed up to the idea.

Sexting is the modern day love letter. When done right, you can build up her anticipation of seeing you so that she can hardly wait to be with you and tear her clothes off.

Sexting is fun and exciting for girls because they get to show a side of themselves that they don’t normally get to.

It’s also great entertainment for any two people who are horny and bored. And with the mandatory wait between messages to build suspense, sexting can be better than porn.

No matter how close or how far apart the two of you are, with the right use of sexting you can seduce a girl to the point that she can’t stop thinking about having sex with you.

The best part about sexting isn’t the sexting itself. It’s the night-long sex sessions that follow…

If there’s a girl you have in mind that you want to have sex with then go here to learn how to get out of the friend zone and get her wanting to have sex with you.

So, yeah. Sexting is a great idea. But you need to do it right, or else you’ll blow your chances of being with her forever.

You need to test a girl before you start sexting to know if she’s OK with it.

And the best way to do this is by subtly getting her aroused with sexual but casual texts.

A few examples:

“Hey you, I was just about to take a long hot shower. What are you up to?”

“I really liked what you were wearing the other night.”

“Girl, I wish you were here right now.”

Say things like this only after you’ve had some longer conversations and you can tell that she’s getting more interested in you.

For the audio/visual learners in the audience, I posted an awesome video covering some of these sexting principles:

Pay attention to the details. Ask her what she likes and talk about doing this to get her excited and wanting to do it.

After texting sexual stuff with her for a while, it’s alright to ask for pics…but don’t get desperate. This tends to turn women off and makes it unlikely that you’ll get anything.

Take it slow. If you start sexting with her before she’s ready, she’ll start to think of you as creepy and offensive. So be patient and follow her lead.

Don’t be selfish. Just like with real sex, there should be equal parts of giving and receiving. If you’re not sharing as much as she is, she might feel cheated…and that means no more pics for you.

When sexting, be real about your intentions. Don’t lead her on just to get what you want or else she’ll get offended and move on.

Tease as much as you can. Be creative about turning her on to build up her anticipation in seeing you by leaving some things to the imagination.

Also, when sharing intimate pics, be careful about those unique identifiers you have, such as birthmarks, tattoos or your face, just in case anything goes wrong.

And it’s usually a good idea to delete your sexting conversations, especially if you’re around people who shouldn’t be seeing them like kids, or co-workers or family members.

Keep in mind, all your texts and pics and recorded in a database somewhere, and when they’re sent out, they can’t be taken back. When it doubt, don’t send it out.

With that being said, you should definitely be sexting when the time is right. There’s no better way to build anticipation for the act itself.

The Biggest Mistakes To Avoid When Texting Girls

Listed below are some of the most common mistakes that most guys make when it comes to texting girls.

If you make just one these mistakes, you can turn what was initially an exciting encounter with a girl into a boring and frustrating “never going to go anywhere” friendship.

Luckily, these are all easy to avoid.

1. Not Texting With Enough Girls

Whenever a guy is texting only one girl, he usually gets into a scarcity mindset that causes him to get overly invested in every text.

To avoid getting into this situation you should be texting lots of girls at the same time.

When you’re texting many women and not expecting anything from any one of them, you’ll have a more carefree and fun attitude that women will find sexy and attractive.

2. Always Being The First One To Text

If you’re always texting her first, she won’t be that excited about receiving messages because she’ll always be expecting them.

But if you can be patient and let her text you first, you won’t look desperate and needy.

A good rule of thumb for texting a girl back is however long she takes to reply back to your texts, take twice that long to reply back to hers.

3. Sending Texts That Serve No Purpose

The more guys a girl has texting her, the more often she’s receiving the same type of texts and the more your texts need to be different for you to stand out.

Make sure all your texts offer value to her and shows your unique personality. Make them fun and interesting. Be different.

4. Coming On Too Strong and Too Soon 

Don’t think too much.

Just text her when you have something to say. Your texts should sound natural and organic.

Don’t go overboard on how you feel about her or she’ll see you as needy, clingy, and desperate.

5. Texting Her Too Often

If you text a girl too often, it comes off as being needy and takes all of the excitement out of flirting.

6. Giving Up Too Early

When a guy texts a girl and he doesn’t get one back from her right away, very often he’ll get frustrated and think she’s not interested and give up.

But the real reason he hasn’t heard from her…could be anything.

She could be too busy at the moment to text back, or she could be in a bad mood, or her battery is dead, or she doesn’t have a signal.

Don’t always assume the worst and don’t expect a girl to text you back right away. It kills the attraction.

7. Taking Her Texts Too Seriously

Nobody enjoys having a serious conversation over text. Keep those type of chats to in-person talks only.

Keep your texts to her fun and playful.

8. Using Text To Avoid Having Real Conversations

A lot of people today are apprehensive when it comes to having real world conversations.

Show her that you’re different by calling her every once in a while and talking to her.

Don’t use text as your sole means of communicating with a girl. Use it in conjunction with real world talking.

9. Sending Her Needless Texts

Don’t text a girl if you don’t really need to. When she says “I’ll see you later” you don’t need to say anything else back to her other than “Later.” Even better, don’t say anything at all.

When you text a girl back every time and right away, saying whatever you can think of, she’ll sense your neediness and lose interest.

10. Letting Your Conversations With Her Drag On Too Long

 If you let your conversations drag on too long you’ll run out of things to say.

Make her wanting more by ending conversations at a high point.

After you’ve been texting for a while, and you feel good about how she’s responding, end it with something flirty like, “As much as I like where this is going, I have to go.”

Don’t tell her exactly what you have to do. Create some mystery and intrigue by being vague, spontaneous, and unpredictable with your texts.

This is what will get her thinking about you long after you’ve been texting.

11. Thinking Too Much

 Don’t spend more than minute thinking about what to text.

Just send what you want to say go back to what you were doing before.

12. Getting Stuck In a Rut

Don’t get stuck making idle chit chat for very long or else you’ll get banished to the friend zone.

Always move things along, always be flirting.

This video I put together perfectly illustrates what I think are the most common texting mistakes men make:

Keep your texts exciting, keep building anticipation, move towards a meet-up.

The alternative is boredom and an empty inbox.

How To End Your Texts

Just like when you’re talking to a girl in person, enjoy your conversation with her and end it before things get quiet by telling her that you have to go.

Always end your texts before there’s nothing left to talk about…not after.

The best places to end a conversation are at a high point, such as when she’s laughing or writing a long text.

Get her thinking about you after you’re done texting—tell her what you’re going to do next, or what the two of you will do together later.

If you’re going to meet up with her for drinks, say “I’ll be over at the far end of the bar with a drink in my hand.”

If you’re not going to see her soon, then plant a picture of you in her mind by telling her what you’re going to do or where you’re going. And be sure to make these pictures interesting!

Set up your next opportunity to text her by saying that you’ll message her again later about whatever it was you guys were talking about.

Example: “I have to go now but I’ll text you more about this later. Bye.”

If your texting and flirting with her was going really well and she’s interested in seeing you, then take things to the next level by asking her out.

If it’s during the day, then keep it light and friendly by saying something like “Hey, what are you doing right now? Let’s meet up. Are you hungry?”

If it’s the evening then say something more forward and enticing like “What are your plans tonight? Want to grab dinner or drinks somewhere?”

The best way to have these invitations work, is by putting them at the end of a text and not be the entire text itself.

Example: “Yeah I love the Seahawks too. Hey, what are you doing right now? Let’s meet up.”

By keeping your invitations to her casual like this, it relieves the pressure of an official date and makes it much more likely that she’ll go along with whatever you suggest.

If you find yourself doing most of the texting or all the replying back, or all you’re getting from her are one-word responses, then it’s time to stop texting.

If you’re trying to think of something to say but not coming up with anything, then it’s time to stop texting.

And if you’re always the one texting first, and trying to move things along but keep getting a bunch of excuses, then it’s probably time to stop texting her for good.


The tips in this guide are here to help you get better with texting girls you like so that they stay interested in you, solidify their existing attraction for you, and (of course) want to meet up in person.

They’re also here to help you realize what you may be doing wrong with the girl you’re texting, so you don’t keep beating your head against the wall waiting for a change.

If you want to see a sample conversation using some of the techniques I discussed here, check out this video I put together:

Keep these tips in mind and you’ll see just how easy texting—and setting up dates—can be.

If you’re ready to take your texting skills with girls to the next level and turn more of your numbers into dates that lead to sex, then watch this video to learn more.

  • ravi

    Hey……..i badly want a gal 2 be my gf.We text gud talk for 3-4 hrs daily….but she said tat she’s hvng a bf…bit she hangs out with me more tan him n she also kissed me wic she didnt do with her bf.
    So wat do i do?
    Her bf is not so carng abt her….rather she more frank with me….
    Watz gng on her mind?
    Does she love me or she jst treats me like a frnd?
    Help me !!:-(

    • Hey Ravi, to be honest it sounds like this girl is taken. I don’t advise any one go after a girl who has a boyfriend/husband. There are way too many women out there who are single and want to be with you! Try to stop texting this one and move on.

    • Mac

      Don’t know if am too late, but move things along fast and to the bed (that will really help and u can then take this to gf status more easily). she obviously likes you. you just have to be the lead and take the lead before your window of opportunity closes.

      • Thanks for the help Mac! Good tips.

  • Rajath Vampire

    hey.. i like a girl .in facebook,can u help me to start a conversation with her.and she doesn’t know me atall n me too.plzzzzzzzzzzz help me

    • Here is my formula for talking to girls on Facebook: Q1-R1-Q2-R2-C. Q1; ask her an interesting question to trigger a response. R1; her first response. Q2; comment and second question (flirty): Make a funny comment and ask her another question. R2; her second response.C; close the deal & ask her out!

      • John

        So the formula works even if you don’t know the girl at all? Can i simply ask a question on fb to a girl who doesn’t know me? I don’t want her to think i’m a creep….

        • Max He

          I have the same problem..

          • Then there’s your answer as well.

          • Chris Hagin

            There’s a girl I like at my school but she has a boyfriend. I liked one of her pics on Instagram and she stared at me in class the next day and I stared back so idk if that was a good thing or a bad thing. She added me back on snapchat and she views all my stories too. That may not mean much but i’d like to think it does lol. She’s a junior and I’m a senior. Any tips?

          • Yeah. Have some integrity and wait until she’s single before trying anything.

          • Chris Hagin

            Thanks for the help Tripp

          • No problem. Keep learning. You’ll get there.

          • Chris Hagin

            I usually ask her for stuff about school and I feel like one day she’s gonna ask me why I ask her all the time and no one else. What should I say? I ask her a lot of stuff cause I like her but idk

          • What’d I just say?

          • Rodney Gamble

            yea i’m kinda in thesame situation

          • Chris Hagin

            Tripp told me to just wait until she’s single.

          • Tripp

            I would add “Don’t just sit around and wait on other people.”

          • I would add “Don’t just sit around and wait on other people.”

        • Yes. Follow the formula. You can’t control what she thinks, so don’t worry about that part.

  • Randy Sharp

    Sometimes things just become… boring! Making use of texting to touch upon the law of proximity is a terrific dating strategy. I have had the luck of meeting quite a few ladies here in Boston after dating them online at Kovla, and for me personally it works perfectly. If right after meeting a girl at a local club, I get her mobile phone number, I usually text her instantly even though we are still right next to each other. This particular principle takes advantage of the hilarity that is natural for the situation of texting a person you are standing right beside or next to.

    • Hey Randy! Thanks for the great tip! Sounds like a fun way to make new friends to go out with. Mind if I steal it?

  • ROAR

    hey bro, i need a serious help, there is a girl in our uni that i like her but she is not responding me msg sometimes she is like a nerdy girl always studying but the main point is that when we meet face to face then she gives me every single signal that she like me i took her for a long drive one night it was fun but i dont know what to do next should i tell her that i like her or what, help me bro please…

    • Tell her you like her, but without telling her. Show her. Take her for another drive. Ask if she would like to do something. Or better yet, ask if she would like to study with you sometime, then go eat afterwards.

  • brett lafave

    i really like this girl a lot we had sex already and we hang out sometimes when we can i dont know if she likes me or not i never asked her if she does. when she she stoped texting me then today i use some of the things you said to say. then she started texting me again. i wanna her ask her out but i dont know if she is ready to yet.But i am ready i dont wanna scare her away. we might be hanging out today . kind of asked her to go to the movies. but what should i do.

    • Take it slow. Ask her if she’s ready and she will let you know.

  • unknown

    Last day i met a girl that was my best friend dance partner. Is it be ok if i start flirting with her?

    • If she’s just his dance partner, sure, why not?

      • Tarumbidzwa Vinga

        Tripp I want to know what do u do if a gal agrees to go on a date with you but its scheduled days to come like after a week..what will be doing with her like how do u text and to what end??

        • Tarumbidzwa Vinga

          And I would like to break down how to avoid being needy when you are texting a gal to go out on a date with her…thats holding me back tripp

  • Unknown

    hey..i’d be very thankful, if you help me get out of this..
    i was in a relationship with a girl for past couple of years and suddenly she brokeup with me with a random reason. It has almost been a year since we broke i texted her about an week ago, she replied me back..these days we’re in touch with each other using social she wanted, we met few days ago and we rarely have a conversation on the phone..
    i was wondering weather if you can suggest me a way i get her back in my life again..
    sorry for my english..

    • Start by moving slowly when contacting her, and show up as your best self, you’ll be giving yourself the best chance possible of getting back together.

  • Meester Alegorae

    my friend said he wanted to hook me up. so apparently he met this random girl and she gave him her number. later tht day wen i met up with him, he gave it to me cuz he already had a girlfriend and told me to hit her up cuz he didnt tell her his name yet. so i was wondering, how do i talk to this girl? i dont know her at all.

  • Christian Tirado

    Hey guys i suggest you find girls that make you feel confortable and relaxed cause on the contrary, the fun may be for her but not for you, and you guys diserve to have fun as well. Its a great way to keep things healthy and appealing

    • Great advice Christian. Thanks!

  • Kevin Wolfe

    Hey Tripp its this girl I like I’m not sure if she like me but I caught her staring at me for a long time and even I caught her she was still looking at me we never talked that much we talked a couple of times I said something to her and made her laugh I actually made her laugh a couple of times…How do I found out if she likes me?

    • By asking if she would like to do something with you 1-1. If she says no or makes up an excuse, then she doesn’t. If she says yes, or suggests another time then she does. Good luck.

    • To find out if a girl likes you, look at her body language and if she is giving you the positive signs that I talked about earlier.

  • Blue

    Hi met a girl in library got her number , she seemed very willing to give her number after we spoke for a while ! But on text she’s literally a dead fish (no offence to the women out there) trying to be funny flirty etc… Should I stop or try a different approach ?

    • Stop texting her and try talking to her. Use your voice.

  • Raphael

    Hey Tripp. I like a girl far too much but she often seems not interested in me so i get in a bad mood and vice versa. In my country we dnt talk officialy english so it would be awkward to text her in english. We’re still at scl but summer is comming. I rarely talk to her f2f and she talks often about me with friends, and most of the time ignore me telling them she dnt responde to me(while she does). She have strong personnality and can be mean and agressive, but last year she was shy with me ONLY. She often give me signs(like eye contacts and a smile from a distance). In a groupe on whatsapp she used to be mean with ume in front of friends but i like her way to far to let this influance my feelings towards her. I really wanna help and would like a reply plz. (If u could give me some time i could give you more info ) this is my e-mail: [email protected]
    looking forward for hearing from you!

    • I don’t suggest trying to get with girls that are mean and aggressive. Get with girls that are sweet and nice. Your luck will change. Good luck.

  • apil

    hlo can u give me examples

    • The examples are in the blog post.

  • musse ali

    Hey tripp,

    I often run out of things to say to girls and dont really know how to end a conversation too well. Can you please help me?

  • musse ali

    Hey Tripp,

    I’m have a probelm when it comes to texting girls. when I ask them what there up to they usually reply with “Nothing much you?” and I dont really know how to get them to say more or steer the conversation towards a topic I want to talk about. Can you please help?

    • Getting a girl attracted to you by text is much the same as doing it in person. It’s by knowing what you want, not waiting too long to advance, not pushing too hard, and knowing how to have fun with her.

  • liam matthews

    Hey, so i met this girl and she lives 3 hours away so we cant meat up, and we both like each other, and i want to date her but idk if she does or not cause its only been three days, i need help!!!!

    • Talk to her daily and apply what I teach in my videos to build the attraction with her.

  • liam matthews

    Hey Tripp, i met this girl and she lives 3 hours away so meeting up isnt an option, and we both like each other but i want to ask her out and i don know if she does or how to do it if she does

    • You don’t have to meet in person to ask a girl out. Use the phone or Skype.

  • Mike

    I text a girl I like a lot but it seems that it’s going no where because she never wants to hangout with me what should I do?

    • Meet 5 other girls, get their numbers, and start texting with them. Do this immediately and let the girl that wants to go nowhere, go there by herself.

      • richard256

        i like your reply @TrippAdvice:disqus i actually tend to use that alot

  • Karthik

    Hey Trip
    I’m finding it difficult to keep conversations going and I do a lot of overthinking while texting. How do I overcome it?
    I wanna text a girl,who has just joined college?
    We have talked in face book for a while.How shall I start?

    • Say hi and go from there.

  • Ryan

    hey theres this girl she seems interested in me but i dont know how to get her interested and know if shes engaged pleae help

    • Talk to her.

      • Ryan

        I did but now she has no interest in me.
        Thanks for the help though.

        • It happens. Now just try with a different girl.

  • lonely boy

    Max your suggetions are awsom it helped me a lot. I just want to ask I just can’t wait to text my girl how can I control it.

    • Get your mind on something else. Get busy with something other than waiting for her to text you back. Or just turn off your phone.

  • Abakar

    Hey trip
    I’m not really good at talking to girls at all in person or text to make them go out with me so how do I talk to them

  • Maninder Singh Bachhal

    i have been love with a girl for three years and we r having great time with each other nd i havn’t sex with her yet…would it be okk ??that our relation will go as well without having sex?need your helpful suggestion(._.)

    • Are you two dating? Is she your girlfriend?

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  • oz

    HI tripp, i started to use my tinder account and i got a mach 2 days ago and i still dont know how to start a conversation!!!! my goal is to take her out on a date to get to know her, can you give me a tip about how to start talk with her, what to say and how to persuade to go out on a date? i would really appreciate, thanks man

    • Starting a conversation on Tinder is much like starting one in real life. Have a nice smile, show interest, and make her smile by saying something interesting.

      • oz

        ill try my best, thanks man 🙂

  • Frodo

    Hi Tripp, I like a girl who is 6months elder than me and thinks of me as a friend. can u tell me how to get out of the friend zone and how to get elder girls to like me

  • Derek Chomi

    Trip, there’s this girl I’m into but she says nothing can happen because she has a boyfriend but she’s so into me
    What can I tell her to convince her to cheat on him

    • I don’t give that kind of advice.

  • Derek Chomi

    Trip, I’ve been asked to send pictures of me nude, I don’t want to but I don’t know aby escaoes to that, help!!

    • Like this…

  • Ashley Lobo

    There’s a girl on instagram and i want to date her but v r unknown to each other…shez in my colge frm other batch..i just want her to know that i exist n want to be her bf…should i dm her ? If yes den how should i make it interesting ? can any one assist me ?? It would be great…

    • I have a video on my YouTube channel on how to talk to a girl on Instagram. Go watch it now, try the formula for yourself and let us know how it works for you.

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  • Am Straange

    Flash back : I had a crush on my school mate . And we both smiled every time , talked at intervals …. And I thought she loved me too … But when I asked her she said that she only considered me as a friend . And I never talked with her for sometime …

    And after a week or two , she poked me on fb . And I poked back and sent a request …. She accepted it . And we messaged each other .. She also said sorry ,that the mistake was on her side … And now we are again in a talking relation .. So what should I do now …? I really love her …. How can I make the relation grow … Through texting on fb ? Because we are on school and the best way to connect is through fb ..

    Please help me , tripp …

    • Age?

    • Get her out in person and spend some time with her 1-1. Better yet, wait until you learn what love actually is and then try again.

  • Vijay Rao

    Tripp.. I need your help.. I don’t know what to do. I hope you’d reply me with the right solution taking my problem into some thinking. I live in India..Here, many girls are like I don’t wanna sex till we get married or something like that. and they also say that they don’t wanna break their parent’s trust by having sex with someone before marriage.. There’s this girl who lives a cities distance from me.. I started knowing her through Facebook. she’s like she has super hots for me.. she gets turned on watching just my pics.. she talks dirty to me.. she says she loves me but she says that it’s just out of attraction and she wants to be friends with me and stuff.. she again talks straight to me like suck my this and eat my this etc.. if u get what I mean.. she tells me she wanna have sex with me and she says that she’s restricted in her house and that she would like to meet me during Christmas.. but the problem is, there’s still 3 whole months for the day we planned to meet.. how should I keep turning her on for all the 3 months to want her have sex with me? she might get bored of me someday between our meeting date.. she says loves me and wants to do dirty stuff with me and again tells me that she wanna control herself from doing all of those. I don’t really understand her.. what do I do?? how do I make her want me for whole 3 months until we get to meet and have sex with her?? Please help with this.. Can someone please help with this?? I just want her soo much.

    • Hi Vijay. Heres what I would suggest; stay in contact with her and keep doing what you’re doing. You should try to see her before Christmas though. That is a long time to wait before seeing a girl.

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  • kalikid

    Hi Tripp ur awesome, thanks
    can i talk privatly please.

  • kalikid

    hi Tripp, ur awesome thank u,
    can i talk to u in private

  • shane

    Hey trip, i have been chatting with this gal fr the past three days, she gave me her phone number but most of her reply is one or two words… i start the text usually.. how to make her start a text and like me

    • Hi Shane. Like I told Adam, talk to her about things you two have in common; friends, events, interests. This is how you make what you say interesting to her. Try it and let us know how it goes.

  • Adam

    This girl flirts with me like crazy in person but when I text her she responds with who’s this? and one word responses. how do I get a better response from her.How do I build a better text conversation on her one word responses? Tried to close a couple of times and its usually meet with radio silence.

    • Talk to her about things you two have in common; friends, events, interests. This is how you make what you say interesting to her. Try it and let us know how it goes.

      • Adam

        I already do talk about that stuff with her Shes smiling and laughs at my jokes.I heard when she talks about other guys with me that are interested in her she is playing hard to get.She also play fights and me teases me.We call each other pet names.Tells me things like shes good at baking to sell her self to me.Keeps playing with her hair usually a huge hair flip or two,I think she also keeps pulling her very tight pants up her ass to show it off.Brushes up against me for no reason.Runs her hands through my hair.Told me she was thinking of spanking me.Another thing she does is that she will start talking to her friends about her body and sexual things and makes sure I’m close enough to overhear it.I had to run an errand in her town 2 days later she was in a bar in my town was that a coincidence?One day a few years ago I checked in to the beach and she showed up too was that a coincidence?Texting her is still like texting a robot one word answers when I try to close she says shes always busy or no response .One time she said yes but then flaked.I can’t seem to pull the trigger to ask her out in person is that what I need to do?If so how do I pull that trigger?

        • Hey Adam. Try asking her out in person the next time you two are together. If you’ve watched any of my videos on YouTube then you already know how to do this.

    • So she flirts with you like crazy in person, but doesn’t respond well by text? Maybe you should quit texting her and go see her in person. Maybe?

  • Max He

    I like this girl, whos in my class, we were really close friends. but not any more. recently, I’ve been text her using the texting formula, it doesn’t seem to be working. She said :” Please, if you wanna say hi, just say hi, not the nickname shit”. she seems annoyed. Please help me

    • How old are you Max?

      • Max He


      • Max He


        • In a few more years I’ll be able to help you. For now, enjoy your childhood, stay close to your family and do your home work.

  • Sam Jakson

    hi . thx for ur advice

    can u use more example for How To Get The Sexting Started and How To Get a Girl Who Has Stopped Texting You To Start Texting You Back Again

    • No problem. Stay tuned to the channel!

  • George P

    13 years crush!!!we had a relationship 13 years ago,never left my mind, wanna get married with her, dont know how to talk to her.any recommendations?

    • 13 years? Wow. That’s a long time for a crush my friend. I do have a recommendation for you. Move….On….

  • Mukesh Kumar

    how to make a girl to miss u……and how to make a girl to get interested in u???

    • By being less available and by making yourself attractive to her. To get the exact steps for doing each of those, go to my YouTube channel and watch those specific videos.

  • Reinhard

    Hey Tripp,

    I was wondering if you can help me, there this supet awesome girl, I like and she likes me,but like all girls she likes somone els aswell.She and the guy are in some type of long distanse relationship, and she never sees him but she is that type of girl that just won’t give up….What can I do to make her want me more?I go out with her,I do everyting in your vids, but what can I do more?

  • Reinhard

    Hey Tripp,

    I was wondering if you can help me, there this super awesome girl, I like and she likes me, but like all girls she likes somone els aswell.She and the guy are in some type of long distanse relationship, and she never sees him but she is that type of girl that just won’t give up….What can I do to make her want me more? I go out with her,I do everyting in your vids, but what can I do more?

    • Age?

      • Reinhard

        Me 18 and she is also

        • Watch my YouTube channel. You’ll get the early start you want.

  • Reinhard

    Hey Tripp,

    I was wondering if you can help me, there this supet awesome girl, I like and she likes me,but like all girls she likes somone els aswell.She and the guy are in some type of long distanse relationship, and she never sees him but she is that type of girl that just won’t give up….What can I do to make her want me more?I go out with her,I do everyting in your vids, but what can I do more?

  • Toby Clouse

    Hey there is a girl Ive been friends with since high school. We just met each other again and exchanged numbers and have eachother on facebook. I want to ask her out but I think she only views me as a friend. Is it too late to change her mind?

    • Hey Toby. It might or might not be too late. You’ll just have to get a conversation started with her, take a chance and find out for yourself. I would suggest you don’t “ask her out” right away because you might scare her away by moving too fast. Try getting to know her first, talking to her more often and then ask if she would like to “catch up sometime”.

  • Angina Malowich

    how to text my ex to get her beck??? make her want me again?

  • Ancient Lune

    Hey I have crush on a girl that I like. I know her
    since a couple of years ago. I have a hard time to hang out with her because
    her mom does not her hang out with any boy. Does anyone have any advice for me?

    • If her mom doesn’t let her hang out with any boys, then you can’t do much about that. So you can either wait for her to become an adult who can make her own decisions, or find another girl who isn’t as held back from doing what she wants.

  • Peter Kinky

    Great post “Text to Sex “. I will try to talk any girl use your steps.

    • Thanks. Sounds like a good idea.

  • lnnn

    I got a girl (well mature woman) who doesn’t seem big on answering texts or getting into very long sessions at all.
    “2. Always Being The First One To Text
    If you’re always texting her first, she won’t be that excited about receiving messages because she’ll always be expecting them.But if you can be patient and let her text you first, you won’t look desperate and needy.
    A good rule of thumb for texting a girl back is however long she takes to reply back to your texts, take twice that long to reply back to hers.”

    She doesn’t seem to match well with most of this list, but at this point seems very unlikely to text me first. I’ve kind of known her a year, but was seeing someone else. We had a nice night out with mutual friends 2 fridays ago which did end in a kiss, but it’s hard to get her to respond to get something going again (she’s slow to answer mutual female friends as well, it’s not just me). Kind of looking for the situation that breaks through a little more. There’s some good ones off one of your videos that’s not here, but I’m a little unsure of the Missy or Cutie type phrase. She’s a bit of a bad ass who rides harleys, and plays a bit of a tough girl. We also both have tough schedules (plus she went out of town for thanksgiving) that prevented me from texting since the holiday (8 days now). Mostly the times I can, she would be asleep or working…. or if she replied at her best time, I would be sleeping or working (so the reply lag would be long, or she’d blow it off I think). We’re 54 and 45 if that helps. But I’m just looking for something that fits that rare time I can say hi.

    • Hi Innn. If there’s a long lag between your texts, then I highly suggest meeting up with her in person rather than trying to engage her in texting conversations. Constantly trying to pick up where the last text left off will only cause a drain on your interactions with her. So meet up with her instead and get to know her in person.

  • Emil Bucht

    Does this work in High School ?

    • Not intended for high schoolers. Thank you.

  • travis bardwil

    I met a girl awhile back at a bar and got her number. Later that night my phone essentially died to the extent that it needed to be reset and I consequentially lost the number.
    Fast forward to the conf. championship game at my school, my buddy that was with me saw her and she gave him my number but because of his pregaming he forgot where he put it on his phone till a few days after. Well it’s finals time and I set up the plan with her but she’s understandably swamped atm and said she’ll get back to me. Later I asked her what her favorite wine is and she answered and I forgot to hit send till the next day and tried to put that little “hey so sorry completely missed this!” But no response. Three days later I’m sitting here, finals end Wednesday and I don’t know how to break the ice and get the ball rolling here. Do you have any ideas.

    Ps. Would’ve messaged her on Facebook back when I got it in October but she had a very common name and couldn’t find her.
    Also I am 19.

  • travis bardwil

    t a girl awhile back at a bar and got her number. Later that night my phone essentially died to the extent that it needed to be reset and I consequentially lost the number.
    Fast forward to the conf. championship game at my school, my buddy that was with me saw her and she gave him my number but because of his pregaming he forgot where he put it on his phone till a few days after. Well it’s finals time and I set up the plan with her but she’s understandably swamped atm and said she’ll get back to me. Later I asked her what her favorite wine is and she answered and I forgot to hit send till the next day and tried to put that little “hey so sorry completely missed this!” But no response. Three days later I’m sitting here, finals end Wednesday and I don’t know how to break the ice and get the ball rolling here. Do you have any ideas.

    Ps. Would’ve messaged her on Facebook back when I got it in October but she had a very common name and couldn’t find her.
    Also I am 19.

  • travis bardwil

    Hey Tripp,
    I met a girl awhile back at a bar and got her number. Later that night my phone essentially died to the extent that it needed to be reset and I consequentially lost the number.
    Fast forward to the conf. championship game at my school, my buddy that was with me saw her and she gave him my number but because of his pregaming he forgot where he put it on his phone till a few days after. Well it’s finals time and I set up the plan with her but she’s understandably swamped atm and said she’ll get back to me. Later I asked her what her favorite wine is and she answered and I forgot to hit send till the next day and tried to put that little “hey so sorry completely missed this!” But no response. Three days later I’m sitting here, finals end Wednesday and I don’t know how to break the ice and get the ball rolling here. Do you have any ideas.

    Ps. Would’ve messaged her on Facebook back when I got it in October but she had a very common name and couldn’t find her.
    Also I am 19

    • Hey Travis. To break the ice with her, send her a very simple “Hey there, how are you?” No need to apologize or explain or go into what you went into here as that would only complicate what is best simple and fun. Get the conversation started as if it were the day after she gave you her number. Let go of any fears you may have of saying the wrong thing and say something short simple and fun and go from there.

  • Max He

    what kind of questions are interesting questions that can trigger a response when texting on facebook? Can you give me an example pls?

    • This website is not intended for minors. Thank you.

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  • Sukh Ghumann

    hey tripp i love a girl and she is from india and we are texting each other almost everyday but i want to take it to the next level can you help me,its just like a long distance texting and i really dont know what to do.
    pllss help

    • You should read this blog post that you’re commenting on. It’s all about that.


    I have a crush on a girl in my college. I texted her hi and she also did the same and after that i messaged her that”i would like to be your friend” but she didn’t reply anything and few days after i message her “hi” again and she didn’t replied me anything. I never talk to her in the college. What should i do now?

    • Tripp

      Hey Raunak. What you should do now is text another girl and don’t make the same mistake of saying “I would like to be your friend.” That is a strange statement to make because the natural thing to do is so simply be someone’s friend. You don’t make friends by going up to people and saying “Hi. I would like to be your friend.” would you? No, you just do.

    • Hey Raunak. What you should do now is text another girl and don’t make the same mistake of saying “I would like to be your friend.” That is a strange statement to make because the natural thing to do is to simply be someone’s friend. You don’t make friends by going up to people and saying “Hi. I would like to be your friend.” would you? No, you just do.

  • Nick Bai

    I asked a girl to go out but she says she’s busy, but actually she has some time. What should I text?

    • Nothing. She’s not interested.

  • Kirby Kirby

    Hi, Tripp. Can you help me?

  • Syam

    Hi tripp. Can you give me some advice? I have had this crush for 3 yrs now. I used to msg her alot until i confessed my feelings to her. But from what i know, she never had a boyfriend before. Im not sure if i should give up or not..

    • If responded positively to your confession (sigh-smh), then you should not give up. If she responded negatively, then move on. Keep it simple.

  • Luke Scheer

    Hey Tripp, so there is this girl I had my eye on for months in high school but I never really talked to her except in our art class where we sat right by each other for the whole year. Long story short she moved away and a day before she moved i was going to ask her for her number but i totally choked. anyways first day of college on orientation tour she was there. She ran up to me and said hey i havent seen you in forever (5 years) and we talked for about a minute and she said that she had to head to head to head to class and she gave me her number. I texted her the next day saying “Hey Sarah its Luke, it was great seeing you again wanna catch up some time” its been two days and she hasn’t responded what do you recommend.

    • 1. Two days is not a long time. And if you think it is, then you need to do more things. 2. Try texting her again. Maybe she didn’t get the first one for some reason.

  • Luke Scheer

    Hey Tripp, so there is this girl Sarah (shes 19 I’m 20) I had my eye on for months in high school but I never really talked to her except in our art class where we sat right by each other for the whole year. Long story short she moved away and a day before she moved i was going to ask her for her number but i totally choked. anyways first day of college on orientation tour she was there. She ran up to me and said hey i havent seen you in forever (5 years) and we talked for about a minute and she said that she had to head to head to head to class and she gave me her number. I texted her the next day saying “Hey Sarah its Luke, it was great seeing you again wanna catch up some time” its been two days and she hasn’t responded what do you recommend.

    • I recommend that you text her again. She was obviously happy to see you. Why wouldn’t you text her again?

  • KoSmos

    hey tripp,
    i like a girl sooomuch that i cant even explain..she was my junior in clg, i never dared to talk her in person. one day i dared and i told her about my feelings towards her via text, she rejected. after that for a long time i didnt text her. after a long time i again started texting her,she is replying but short replies or 2 to 3 sets of conversations… i want her to be my gf.. plzz help me tripp

    • Watch all my YouTube videos ASAP! You will learn everything you need to know about how to make her your gf. Oh, and more thoughtful typing wouldn’t hurt either.

  • Hey Tripp,
    Last year I talked with a girl I really liked, we flirted with each other and had fun conversation over text, yes only in Facebook and Phone, I didn’t had guts to ask her out for anything as it was awkward for 2 high-schooler to go around and roam around >.< then later she moved to different country and we didn't had conversation for months. Later back a month she came back here, Shall I go and text her around again ? and How shall I remove the awkwardness for asking out her ?

    P.S : We are in highschool.

    • Pick up where you left off and try again. When the time is right to ask her out, do it.

  • justin

    hey tripp,

    yesterday was the second time i’ve randomly run into a girl that works out at the gym i used to go to. i was taking photos at a store for work and she happened walk in looking for perfume. so i ended up walking around with her and we were playfully testing out different scents and whatnot. before she left i got her number and here’s what happened:

    ME: so i think that was officially the first time i’ve ever been perfume shopping? haha -justin
    HER: hahaha well thanks for your help!
    ME: of course! i’m glad we randomly ran into each other yet again, haha. so what other craziness do teachers usually get into during spring break?

    since she hasn’t texted back, i’m assuming that i came off too strong, too long, and escalated a little too quickly, diverging too far away from the initial reaction. my other text was gonna be “of course! have you tested it out yet? it looked like you were going to the gym”. how do i re-engage her?

    • Give it a while until your “over-eagerness” fades and then try again. I strongly suggest using one of my “7 Deadly Texts For Making A Girl Want You”. Look into it.

  • Akshay Kale

    Hi Tripp , I have a crush since I was in school now I’m in college . I expressed my feelings to her 3 or 4 times .but she don’t say yes or no she just say she don’t want to get in relationship now .Now she doesn’t reply me on fb but doesn’t block me still . what should I do plz reply

    • Not replying is not a good sign. There are more girls out there for you. Keep looking.

  • Dave

    Hi Tripp, I met a girl and we had good chemistry but I did not make a move because I was in a relationship then. How do I let her know I’m single now?

    • By starting a conversation with her and then asking if she’d like to do something with you sometime.

  • QQQ

    Hey tripp! I had a crush on my school mate, we know each other but we didnt talk much school. But recently I started to text with her and some times she doesnt reply and some times she would text me first. So what should I do? Does she feel actually feel interest texting with me?

    • If sometimes she texts you first, then yes, she is interested in texting with you.

  • tiago

    Hii, i met this girl 2 years ago on summer holidays and i had a crush on her back then, this summer i will be with her. Last week I started to talk with her on twitter i don’t know if she is into me, only chated with her 2 times via twitter ( this week) and don’t have things or subjects to talk with her. Can you help me please ? We’re kinda good friends our schools are extremely close, i don’t want to mess this up …

  • Louie A Johnson

    So basically don’t try to hard?

  • Oliver

    Aright so I kind of feel I’ve burnt my bridges here but here’s how it goes: I first meet her IRL at her home (through my dads work). Waited about 1 week followed her on social medias and then sent away a casual snap: “Hey :)” she replied with a “hello there”. Then I sent, All good with you? :). She replied “OMG it’s you!”. I sent, yeah it’s me haha, all good? :). We then snapped for around 2-3 hours but just casually. Then I snapped her the next day at afternoon, no reply. waited for 1 day sent another casual “Hey, all good with you? :)” She replies with “Yeah all good with me, and you? :)” blablala just another casual back and fourth conversation. Then I sent her a text around lunch the next day, no reply. So she doesn’t really reply to my snaps at the day. So I thought, OK I’ll let her snap me first now. Waited for about 4 days and felt like I have to snap her agian now, it’s been 4 days cmon. So I snaped her agian, I started the conversation, AGIAN. But we snaped for about 2 hours agian but just casual, AGIAN! So now is my question, can I move forward from this? And if so, how?

    • Yes, but you’ll have to escalate it and stop texting her like one of her friends. No more casual conversations. Take it somewhere or try again with someone else.

  • Billy

    Hi trip,
    Me and this girl have been texting for a while and she is starting to set me but I don’t know how to sext back and response
    I need your help

  • Cleveland

    Hey trip, there’s this girl I’ve been talking about for a while now. And she straight up told me she likes me. My problem is she’s constantly wanting to hang out together, but I ask her “what’s your schedule like?” Reply; “I’m not sure”. I’ve studied and followed all your tips, and of them 90% work on ever girl -expected that “one girl”. How is the best way to get her out?

    • You’re already using the best way to ask her out. Problem is, it doesn’t sound like she’s as attracted to you as you are to her. Go to work there and then go back to asking her out later. Good luck.

  • dimitris sevastidis

    How to start a conversation with a girl on facebook that I don’t know?
    And how to tell her to meet up to know each other better?

    • Use the “Facebook Conversation Formula” that I give away and explain on my Youtube channel.

  • Mike

    Hey, congrats on this great blog. Need some advise…
    Ive known this girl for 3 months now, started texting, dating and had sex on our second date. After that, we had 4 maybe 5 more dates, all of them having sex and everything was peachy, until a couple of weeks ago, since I have been asking her out, and she has postponed the date. Last ime she did that, I replied with a 2 sentence text, saying that I was hoping to meet her, but if she couldnt, it was ok…very casually and a bit colder than the previous warm texts….. So everything up to know has been text based…I like this chic…wanna continue having sex with her…thinking about calling her if she doesnt text back soon (its been 48 hours since this, but I havent seen her in 2 weeks)…is it ok to call?

    • Trying harder to get a girl usually has the opposite effect that we would like. Try backing up and putting more time and space for her to come around.

  • Akhil

    Hey Tripp…..I have exchanged the number with a girl on flight. She responds to the text, but whenever I ask her out neither she says no nor yes. She can simply ignore me but this also is not happening. I am still holding on to it without being a creep that I do not text her a lot. Even I have called her once she spoke to me for a while. She is high quality girl though.

    • Congratulations. Keep it up!

  • kasim sk hasan

    hey trip..theres a girl at work who i really like…we talk over whatsapp like daily…but at office its just *”hi,hello”*,i cant ask her out because of her parents,please help me how can i make this girl like me through chatting?

    • If a girl’s parents are a problem for you, my suggestion is to start meeting older girls who can make their own decisions.

  • Theo

    I’m texting a Girl in my class on snapchat and i doesn’t know if she is intresed in me as i am to her. I think she was intresed in me like a month ago but then i wasen’t intresed in her then but now i am! Like i really like her but i doesn’t know what to do…?

    • I wouldn’t worry about it. A month from now, you won’t even care.

  • Damion Smikley

    Hey Tripp
    There’s this girl I like but she’s two years older than me. She says she don’t date younger guys, but I really like her and want her to be my girlfriend. What do you suggest I do?

    • I would suggest that you find a girl who isn’t hung up on such a trivial thing like a couple years age difference. Shouldn’t be too difficult, since most people aren’t hung on things like that.

  • Joshua Campbell

    What if the girl is always waiting for the guy to text back?

    • If he likes her, then it’d probably be in his best interest to start texting her back sooner.

  • Vinnie

    I love this page advices and there’s a situation with which I’d like some help
    there’s this girl, we’ve known each other since 3 years, we used to text normally like friends do, I’ve started developing liking for her lately, and have done lot of stupidity which made her text lesser and lesser, how do I get her to text back normally again and eventually ask her out?

    • After messing things up with a girl, the best course of action is to take a break from her for a while. Make positives changes in yourself, your life, and your communication, then try to pick things up again after it’s been long enough to get a fresh start.

  • nagulaudaykiran

    hey i have a problems with my gf some time

    she will say i like u some time say i love u and i hate u now wt should i do plz help me

  • Jay

    Hey…i luv a girl for a very long time and we talk almost everyday via text rarely in person or on phone…i confessed my feelings to her and she put me in friend zone…though she cares about me a lot bt i can’t get out of friend zone…and she is a bore type of girl coz she is more into studies and work….dats y our conversations are gettin dry…
    So please help me…and I’m clear about my goal i want to marry her….

    • I have some tough news for you. It doesn’t sound like she is interested in you and I’m afraid that anything you say or do in an attempt to change this will be a waste of your time and energy.

      I’m here to help you get the girls who want to do the same things you do. To go out and do fun things together, to go out on dates and laugh and flirt, to be together physically and intimately, to be together in a long-term and fulfilling relationship.

      There are girls who want these things and girls who don’t. The girls who do are the ones you should be going after, if you want to win at this game of girls and dating. The ones who do not are a waste of time and effort and will only make it harder for you to win in the future.

      If you want to have the girls and the dating life that you deserve, go after the ones that are happy with themselves and their lives and are more open to meeting new people and having fun and let the others go back to their problems.

      Don’t let a girl’s disinterest in you, (which has more to do with her than it does with you) get you down or keep you from trying again with another girl.

      Keep your eyes on your goals and don’t let the girls that aren’t interested slow you down.

  • Christophe97

    Hi, I like a girl but she is family but very very far, and I normally see her twice a year, but she has the look and the brains. I really have no idea how to chat with her because when the family come together I’m normally shy and I want to show her who I am.. Any ideas? Thank you!

    • You’re not supposed to go after girls in your family. Even if they live far away. Try talking to girls in your area that you are not related to.

  • hakeem

    im in high school and cant go in person in front of this girl i like and dont know how to talk to her online either what do i do

    • Watch my videos, listen to my podcast, and read my blog. You have a lot to learn.

  • Brad C

    So I have this girl that I have talked to very little and after a few text I asked her out and we agreed on a date… Then she canceled and rescheduled for next weekend I still have to wait a week and I’m a bad texter and flirting guy we haven’t spent time in person but 5 minutes talking and I don’t know how often I should text her or what to say when I do please help me soon fast please… This is a girl I spent my childhood with and just remet each other after 8 years and we still have that attraction for each other. Should I try to text her everyday or skip days? I have watched just about every video and I don’t feel like I have what I need

    • Brad C

      I hope this can get a response asap
      It would be very helpful

    • If you watch videos on what to do and won’t do something because you don’t feel like you have what you need, then you’re wasting your time. Don’t wait until you feel a certain way to do what you need to do. Watch them again, wait for a part that resonates with your situation and do what is suggested.

  • Tkash Smashed

    Hey! Tripp i need your advice

  • Tkash Smashed

    I liked a girl long back (before 4 years)and we talked for some days via texts and she was also intrestedin me suddenly she started getting personal and wanted to ask me about having sex! And i replied to her like ” i like you ” and i don’t want to do this with you because i love you this happened all via text and after this she suddenly started bragging about the guy she met and that he taught me all this and that about how private parts of body works and all and she blocked me one day via text and we loosed contact so i did a SILLY thing and i told the guy via text of whom she used to brag all day about that ” she is a slut! And fucks rvery guys she meets!” He puked all my text with him to that girl and we lost contact. After 4 years i texted her and apologised to her and she expected my apology and she said it is okay! And i also told her to that extent that it is been 4 years and when you will meet someone like me bring that guy in front of me and prove it to me that the guys is. Correct for her. Then she was confused and blown up by my text and told me that i am 4 years younger i have forgiven you and what will i do with her as she is 4 years younger than me i get her to talk to me somehow. What happened before 4 years was that she showed all what i had told to that guy via text to her mom. We talked for like 3 days and she told me that it will take time for to accept that you have changed . Suddenly her mother comes to notice that we are talking so she texted me that she can’t talk with me anymore so i wrote a long essay about things which happend when we first talked and also told her that my feelings had never changed and also made her understood all which has happened between us and after 4 years. She replied to me next day and said she cried and was thinking all day and didn’t wanted to reconcile and said i am in fear that you will do things ehich you have did in past and also my mother does not like you i have done everything to get her back but she doesn’t want to reconcile and all this happened via text and we have hardly talked over phone. I have developed so much feelings for her via text and I don’t want to move on and I don’t know what to do now? Should i move on or should i use your method “pickup the phone” and ask her finally that should i move on? Help me over this tripp

    • I think you know what you should do, but you admit that you don’t want to. And if you don’t want to do what you know you should do, then what’s the point of asking what you should do? For now, you can take your chances and keep trying to get with her for another 4 years and see how that goes. Or you can try meeting one of the other billion girls around and try something different. What do you think?

      • Tkash Smashed

        Hey tripp your advice is helpful. Currently i am having mixed emotions on whether i like this girl or not? + she won’t talk to me because of what her mother thinks about me and said that her mother don’t like that she talks with me so what should i do to get her talk to me and meet her in personal we have talked much over whatsapp but have never met in personal i have seen your videos and i have got insipiration from it. But how do u get back her in my life and get her talking with me and meet her in pesonal so that i can show her that i am a changed person and get to know about her what is her perspective in life and what does she feels for me?

        • CYA means see ya later, which means goodbye, which means she is not interested in talking anymore. Find a girl who is more deserving of your time and attention. Stop wasting your time with girls who don’t appreciate it or you. There is another girl, and probably more girls, who will appreciate your attention. Find and get to know them. Stop living in the past and make a new future for yourself. Good luck.

          • Tkash Smashed

            Thanks Tripp! Fir helping me out i was in a great confusion since 4 years and gradually i have started to develop feelings to loose interest in her and your advice is working thanks a ton! 😁

          • Tkash Smashed

            Tripp! I have another question should i casually text her on her birthday wishing her happy birthday at the midst of the day her birthday is on 1st november so should i wish her? It has been 4 weeks that we haven’t talked yet and so should text her wishing on her birthday will it sound too much clingy or desperate?

          • If you’re wondering that, then you’re still not ready. Make yourself strong and stop reaching.

          • Tkash Smashed

            I just found out that she has blocked me from all the social media and i don’t know why plus this time it was not as rude or it was not such an obscene. But after thinking over and over i came to the point that i don’t want her anymore and i don’t need her plus she will never comeback to me and i also don’t want her. I had sone plenty of mistakes in past and it makes difficult for me to even try and approach to any girl out there and i have started yoga and getting fit nowadays and it feels good. From the last few days i have even started to feel up beat. Her birthday is around the month and i am not sure that if she has blocked my contact number so to check that ahould i call her up on her birthday and wish her or should drop a simple text. And if i do need to call her should i ask her to meet in person or just ” happy birthday! Have a nice day ” will work.

          • Working out = good idea. Thinking about what to say to her on her birthday after she blocked you on all social media = bad idea.

          • Tkash Smashed

            I know it’s a bad idea but now that i developed a proper lean posture the girls at my workplace are hitting me and i don’t have a clue. I simply ignore them because i find myself guilty i don’t know for what reasons i am feeling so but i don’t have any clue i just don’t want any relation right now because i personally find it difficult and because of that i had developed anxiety before and due to that i haven’t had slept for a week finally i had to visit a doctor to get some good sleep. I have noticed fee things from our past texts that she has done yhis for second time and out of nowhere she will leave me by giving some shitty reasons which is difficult for a man of normal prudence to believe. Her birthday is round the next week help me tripp. Should i call her and just wish her happy birthday or should i leave her. I want a last chance and i want to just wish her no hard feelings and want to see what happens there after

          • Find another girl to talk to (better yet, multiple other girls) and stop asking what you should do with this girl who has made it clear that she is not interested. Man up and find something else to focus on that will be good for you and your future. Do not write in again until you do. I look forward to that response.

  • John Marshall

    Hi Tripp To begin texting you must have patience with a woman, Soon you will have a good rapport, When she is ready you can then start sexual texting, Your new girlfriend will then be doing the same as you telling you what are her sexual fantasies.The truth is that you can make a woman orgasm with text. The surprising aspect is that no other man has done this to her before. Provide her with a orgasm.

    • Patience is a virtue. And in person is better than texting.

  • Suraj Prajapat

    Hey Tripp, I got a text from a girl as “send me one more message and I will fuck your case:)”with an emoticon.I don’t know what to text her back or whether text her or not or whether call her and make a meet.I met this girl a year ago in an exam hall. I was sitting next to her and build some sexual tension and took her number. At that time I didn’t knew how to text a girl but now I know. Since a week I text her 4-5messages flirtatious not in need to get a reply and got a reply as this with an emoticon. Pls tell me what should I do.

    • It depends on what she meant by that last text. If it was a good thing, then send her one more message to see where it goes. If it wasn’t, then she’s probably not interested.

  • Mohd Akmar

    hey tripp , ilike a girl , but a few days ago i saw a boy with her on instagram , maybe her bf , but i still like her

    • Thanks for sharing.

  • Amir Al

    Hey, my school had just started, and I have met a girl in this school, and I started to like her. She had just crushed with her boyfriend, I asked her for a relationship she answered that she is having a break, I asked her to let me know when she’s ready to be my gf, she said that we’re going to be together, but not now. Ok, right know I am confused between texting her every day or not and what to text her about, and also confused between sitting with her at school break or not. And what should I do to make her more interested by me, and to make her forget her old bf. Can you help me with this? (NOTE: I didn’t know this girl before school).

    • By not being so eager to be in a relationship with her. Nobody wants what they can have so easily.

  • Britton Thompson

    Oh Great & Wise Tripp, I come seeking your expert consultancy.
    I met a girl at a bar this past weekend where we hit it off quickly and gradually developed a rapport as the night went on. She gladly gave me her number when I asked her if she’d like to meet up again next weekend. She even asked for my number in return and for the correct way to spell my name in order to accurately store it in her contacts lists. At the end of the night she hugged me as I was leaving and said it was great meeting me.

    However, I texted her the next day saying I enjoyed meeting her and looked forward to hopefully seeing her again soon. And ………….nothing. No response from her for two days by now. Perhaps I didn’t meet the guidelines of producing an emotion within her by sending a flirty, short, fun message in the first text. But how could that first text have been so underwhelming that it totally undone the chemistry we had from the night before? Also, if all this is true, why are women so damn strict in the protocols and unwilling to forgive a little slip up with a man here or there in the beginning stages? Are they really that inflexible and discriminant when vetting potential suitors? I mean, do we have to always be perfect in our procedures when we’re pursuing them every time? So tell me Tripp, what should my next move be from here?

    • Casanova2067

      It’s a game don’t take it too seriously pal ;-). It’s not only women who are like that, it is everyone who’s got choice be it a gal or a guy. There was probably nothing wrong with your text, it’s simply that she meets a bunch of guys all the time and she’s interested in some more than in others. I wouldn’t waste much time thinking about that chick, there is plenty of fish. Your mindset is crucial buddy, even more important than looks 😉

      • Great answer. Thanks for the assist!

  • Courage Chimombe

    hey there is this girl at my school i really like her but the problem is i told her i loved her yet we rarely know each other and she sayed its impossible to love someone you dont know. I still love this gal and sometimes we chat and sometimes she doesnt reply, we talked face to face but we at the same school. What should i do to win this gal?

    • Stopping telling girls you don’t know that you love them, might be a good start.

  • John Marshall

    Hi Tripp Reading some of the experiences of men texting women women online has surprised me.How little they understand women. I have just been texting on WeChat. First I was on Facebook and my online girlfriend said to me I am having a shower. Please go on WeChat I have something to show you.I went on the app & she had attached a naked picture of herself. We then began Sexual texting. After the texting she said you do know you have made me orgasm with your texting. This time it was my girlfriend that decided to become very sexual via text.Texting now I think as become the quickest way to have sex with a Girlfriend.

    • Thanks for sharing your experience. Perhaps you can share some of your “understandings of women” so we can learn something from you.

      • John Marshall

        Hi Tripp My age is 61 I am a teacher of mainly adult women. My Girlfriends are very much younger than me. My girlfriends are of varied nationalities. Chinese,Filipino, Ukrainian, British, Dutch. The hardest by a distance are traditional Chinese ladies. With Chinese woman of this type when they tell you they miss you very much. It means they love you and want to live with you.
        You will need many months of texting. Tell them stories about your past romantic experiences. But do not become overtly sexual with them. You can tell them that you want them to sit on your lap & kiss and cuddle and hug them. Only text like this after a period of time. Leave it in their minds what comes after, Imagining being with you is enough.The texting style depends on your rapport with this woman. My one advice first make them jealous most men have options. Do the push pull technique. Give them time to miss your conversations. For all women show interest in their lives. Most men are stupid when texting a woman for the first time.Let them chase you. Many times they reach out to you. In the world there are many lonely Beautiful women who are great inside and out. Watch out for scammers. But they are very easy to spot.
        Be a Alpha Male who has a life and many options.Make them to want to be part of your life. Attached picture of Chinese Girlfriend.

        • Thanks for sharing. Wouldn’t say “months of texting is required” cause it’s more often achieved before that, but better later than never.

  • M.Raj

    I like too many girls but im scared to talk them or her

    • Stop being scared.

      • M.Raj

        Bro its easy to here but hard to talk any girl plzz tell me how

        • To get an answer, please make your question understandable, specific, and about a real situation you’re facing. Thank you.

      • rahul Raja

        I am not scared but really my mind is out when I am near my special girl

  • John Marshall

    Hello Tripp I use Skype,Face book messenger & WeChat. My reasons for communication is to meet & have a hot girlfriend and have a relationship with her. I am able to travel the world & meet many different types of women. If you are a man that is happy & successful & confident it attracts all women. A man like that will go up to a woman and converse in a relaxed & open way. He shows no fear of rejection. Other men will watch & will not understand how he can be able to be like this with any woman. My experience comes from teaching them over a long period of time. Be aware by communicating with a woman online. They can fall in love with you.
    A good subject to discuss with them is Astrology. I am a Virgo male. My girlfriends are Taurus & a Virgo woman. Women are much more emotional than a man & love communication. Men are logical. The time of the month effects her. Study Female behavior on the internet. Tell them about your romantic adventures. All you are doing is telling them about your life experience. Your stories can be as sexual as your experience. Do not hide that you are a man with experience of women. I have actually told them that I am going on a date with a another woman. Many women are jealous of other women. A real man has choices.He is selective who he wants to be with. Be a Alpha male. Watch James Bond films. Would he fuck a fat woman. no. Does he like intelligent smart women yes. Real men are relaxed. Not afraid to be sexual with a woman at the right time. Knows when a woman is interested in him. I was on a flight back to England a few months ago. In the seats in front of me a woman turned to man and asked do you speak English. He was not able to answer. I leaned forward in my seat & whispered to her would you like to chat with me. She answered yes.I asked the man sat next to her to move & I sat on a seat next to her. The seats were in a row of three, He sat where I was sitting where I was before. I chatted with this lady during the whole flight. I was wearing a dark blue suit. Other women watched what I did and knew I was a Alpha male. Being shy & having no confidence you will just get rejected. Hope this information was informative.

    • Hi John. Thanks for sharing your story with us. There’s a lot of useful advice in there for any guy who wants to know how to have the mindset of a guy that is smooth with women.

  • vladdie k

    Yo Tripp, you da man! So I have been talking to this girl that lives like an hour away from me for maybe 5 weeks or so, and have hung out ( yep, overnight ) on my side of town twice, and had a pretty good time. She mentioned shortly thereafter the last encounter (about 2 weeks ago) that she wants to hang out again, on her side of town. Ok cool right, but up to about a week ago, we pretty muched chatted as usual for a few days ( I took a couple day break to play the ‘game’) we got back into it just a tad, then bam! She damn near vanished, I called her once one day, texted her twice total (each one on separate days with a day in between) , and the last message a few days ago was a simple pic mail of the 2 of us in our last encounter…..and nothing… now what?

    • That’s called “ghosting”. It’s when someone, instead of talking to the other person to tell them how they feel and let them know what they plan on doing like a decent person, ditches the relationship without bothering to say anything to the other person. It’s the most uncool way to end a relationship, and sadly very common. So for you, I would say send one more text telling her your thoughts and that you would like to know what hers are. This is a very fair question to ask because you just want to know. She will then either let you know good news or bad, or she’ll continue to ghost you. Either way, you’ll have your answer. What you do after that is up to. Make it positive and don’t dwell. Good luck.

      • vladdie k

        Thanks for the reply and input Tripp. She is one of the hottest females, if not THE hottest, I’ve been with in probably 8 years, so once again I appreciate your professional knowledge on this, even tho I knew right from the get-go, that I was probably her ‘flavor of the month’. I’m not expecting any kind of response ever again from her, but that month in October was the 1st, time-frame experience, that I am proud to say that, I was ‘used’! Lol

  • Bryan

    Hey tripp. How to text a girl and make her like me.when I am texting,i always have the same words to say to them.and I don’t know how to text them and meet up with them …

    • Read this post.

      • Bryan

        What post you talking?

        • Scroll up. Read the title of the post above. You’ll soon figure it out. Hopefully.

  • Gibran

    Hey man i really need you right now, i’ve met this girl two years ago, then i had bad first impression on my first text but 1 week or 2 weeks after the first time because i had no experiences on approaching a girl. I made up my mind to create a new account and say sorry to her and she was okay with that. And i moved on for 2 years and i want to get to know her again right now and i want to get her out now but she’s in Perth and I’m in Jakarta. But i’m going to studying in Melbourne next year, i think she won’t think the past me right? What should i do, thanks mate. Btw do you have whatsapp? i think it’s better that i contact you personally

    • If you’ve known a girl for years and nothing has ever happened between you, then it’s usually best to meet a new one, or better yet many new ones and don’t wait so long before asking for help. Life is short and time is limited. If you ever have a question that starts with “I’ve known this girl for years….” then the best and really the only answer is to meet new girls asap.

  • Luis Cazares

    Hey when you ask a girl what she’s doing over the weekend and she Tell’s you and she ask why
    Is she expecting you to take her out?

    • No. She wants to know why you want to know. So tell her.

  • pranav

    I Just got out of a relationship, and to be honest it was a mess. recently, i started talking with an old friend of mine, who is a friend of another girl from my high school (she was/is judgmental about me).

    Anyways, we have so many things in common, right from love for writing to bad past experiences, and after few days of conversations with her, i think, she is quite an interesting person and i would really like to ask her out. The major problem is, i am out for my masters, and i would have very few chances to visit her. but i think i can make it work.

    so my concerns are – how do i make sure that we are on same page?
    how to make sure that i do not come out as a needy person?
    and above all, is it logical to take things ahead in this situation?

    It would be great if you could advice me on my situation…


    • You will know if you guys are on the same page by asking her to do something with you and she says “Yes.” And by that I mean something like “Would you like to go out for dinner and a movie?” Because there’s no confusing this to be anything other than a date. Her reaction will give you your answer to that question. To not be needy, just don’t do things that a needy person would do like “trying harder” or asking a desperate question like “She said no, now what do I do?” Be ok with “No.” Is it logical to take things ahead? Why does something need to be “logical” for you to do it? Stop wondering if something is “logical” for you to do and take the chance of going after what you want. Hope that helps and good luck.

  • dre curry

    Hey I’ve watched a few of your videos after trying to look things up to see what going on .. basically we meet on tinder and started to hangout out . The first time we got into a disagreement we needed up having sex .after that we had sex every time we meet up . Than out of no where she started being short and distance. Maybe she felt I was getting feelings for her . Ever sense than i have to be the first one to reach out to her and a few times she actually doesn’t text me back .. we were texting one day and set up a time to actually see each other again .the next day I texted her to ask if she could come earlier and she never texted back and we never seen each other . So I gave it three days and texted her and she texted back and after I texted her after she never responded .. I don’t know if she’s not interested anymore or is playing hard to get . Any tip would help . Thank you in advance

    • Stop confusing yourself by getting caught up in those games. Wait for her to text you. If she does, she’s interested. If not, then it might be time to take a break. Don’t let someone else’s issues or confusion become your issues and confusion. Know what you want and stay focused.

      • dre curry

        Hey thank yu for the information .. so actually a few days later she reached out to me on social media twice . One with a picture of her self and than she wrote me .. I responded back the next day , very short . Than we talked for a little I set up a time to hangout when I was free next week , and she said just let her know. She’s open all she has is work . I didn’t respond after . Should I keep giving her space and be short with her? And should I reach out to her when I get back to set up seeing her ?

        • Tripp

          Keep doing what works. If what you’re doing is working, keep doing that.

        • Keep doing what works. If what you’re doing is working, keep doing that.

  • Yash

    I have mate that girl after 4-5 yr. How do I start chatting with her.. And make her interested in me for chatting

    • I don’t understand your question. Please try again. Also, your question will need to be specific and relevant to a situation you’re currently facing. General questions like “How do I get a girl interested in me?” are answered on my Youtube channel and podcast. Please refer to those for things like that.

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  • Gaurav Deep

    Hey, I have been texting a girl from two months n we met twice. I talked to her about marriage n getting in to a serious relationship.I think it was too early for me to do that n it made her feel as m desperate to b with her. Now she talks to me but make excuses for meeting up. I told her that let’s not talk as she doesn’t respond well. She said she will stick around Mr n just trying to figure out the best for best for us. Guide me please

    • You already know what your mistake is, so don’t do it again. With this one, you can try taking a break and waiting for her to come around and trying again, but the most important thing is to learn from your mistake and try not to make it again. Because if you are talking about marriage in your first meeting with a girl, this means that you’re not complete and need someone to be happy and that repels girls fast. Good luck.

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  • Kevin Methvin

    HelloTripp, I seem to not fully grasp how much or how little to text a girl that I’ve been out with a few times (post closing the deal). With my career, I make my own schedule and end up with some free time here and there. I seem to try texting said girls a few seperate times a day. In the morning, afternoon and night. Am I trying too hard? I have a girl who I’m into (had an awesome 22 hour first date, she stayed over) and I’m afraid that I may be coming on too strong now (yet again). She’s supposed to be coming over tonight and the texts replies from her at fewer and fewer over the past two days. She’s blaming it on work (I didn’t ask, but she would preface it). I don’t want to screw this up (last three relationships with girls were a couple months and they lost interest) Help!

    • In general, yes texting a girl morning, noon and night is too much. However, in your case where a girl stayed over and you’re into each other, then no it would not be too much. In fact, most of the time when a girl gets intimate with a guy quickly, she likes the reassurance of more communication.

  • Mohammed Aldulaimi

    I met a girl on Snapchat and I liked her, but I’m a little afraid to talk with her. So I need some help how to start a text conversation with her. ( she lives in Maine and I live in Virginia).

    • Thanks for the question. I made an entire video series on starting text conversations with girls. Best part is, it’s free and you can watch it right now. Go to my Youtube channel and go to playlists. You’ll find it there.

      • Mohammed Aldulaimi

        Thank you so much that video helped me a lot

        • You’re welcome. Keep learning and practicing. You’ll get there.

  • Ndumiso Makawa

    Hey there Tripp. I am a huge fan.
    There is this girl that Iike. I have started texting with her but I have no idea weather she likes me or not. Is there anyway I can find out without her knowing that im tryna find out.

    Pleaaase help.
    Thank you.

    • xShadow215

      It’s not exciting if she knows right away. The best way to do it subtly is to flirt. Just compliment her: Say something about how pretty her hair was today, make up a joke and if she reacts positively and responds with an emoticon then it’s a sign that she might be into you. Some girls are just trying to be “nice”. The way to check if she likes you after flirting with her is by seeing if that changes the way that she interacts with you in anyway. Signs: She starts conversations with you, she stares at you often, she says “hi” every time she sees you. Ask her if she’s okay with you calling her, you might also pick up clues from the tone of her voice. Whatever you do, just don’t actually tell her that you like her on text unless she does that.

      • Great advice here.

    • Yes. Ask her to do something with you. If she says yes, then she likes you. Let me know how it goes.

  • Debangshu Ari

    I shall state you my problem today which is completely different from all other ones.

  • Debangshu Ari

    Here I go.
    I liked a girl one year younger than me. Accidentally, she is my student now and getting attached with student is not a good idea. She will be my student for six more months. I like that girl really and I wish to make my move when she won’t be my student anymore. Any suggestions?

    • I can’t help you. You’re not supposed to be thinking about your students like that. A teacher is supposed to be a friend, mentor and confidant to their students. Not wondering how to date them. How that being said, since you’re about the same age, wait until she’s not your student anymore. But for now know your role and slow your roll.

      • Debangshu Ari

        I am concerned about my role and I can assure that I do possess all qualities of your expectation. In spite of getting judgmental towards me, I confess that I really had feelings for her.

        • I understand you have feelings for her. My previous advice still applies.

  • Hey there. I don’t reply to rants but if you’ll rewrite your message into meaningful sentences, I’ll be happy to try and help you. Thanks.

  • James Phillips

    Hey is there any tips on how to gain attraction with your ex fiance, she fell out of love with me. We was together for 9 months but is saying she wants to be single and independent

    • Yes there ARE. Find my video called “How To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back”. This should give you a lot of ideas for getting her back. Good luck.

  • walle

    l have a girl that im liking, but lately l didnt know your tips so l texted like im in the friendzone.Now l wanna show her that l love,how can l do that tripp?

    • Check out my playlist on Youtube called “How To Text A Girl”. It has a bunch of videos that will teach you how to text her right.

  • Rodney Gamble

    Hi Tiripp

    so i seen this girl that i really like at my school, and i told her my feeling towards her and she gave me her number but i don’t know how to male or keep conversation in other to ask her out. is there a way you can help me with this.

    • I have a podcast called “How To Talk To Girls” that covers this extensively. Feel free to check it out.

  • Sahil Malik

    Hii…..I like a girl of another class and I try so many time to talk to her but she shy so much and can’t talk with me .what can I do?

    • Try writing it down. Say “Since you are unable to communicate verbally how about a note instead?” She will write something down and let you know where to go from there.

      • Bryan

        Tripp…How u

      • Bryan

        Tripp…What kind of stuff can I say,when talking to a girl on the phone?

        • Things you have in common is usually easiest.

  • Nikhil

    I love a girl since too long… Now we came in touch again and it’s been around one year. We used to talk on msg but when she calls me or ask me to call, I became completely blank over call… How to overcome this issue?

    • Make a list of things to talk about and the next time she calls you, use it.

      • Nikhil

        Thank you I will try definitely 😊

  • joseph

    tripp what if she tell u that she will let you knw when to meet up

    • It’s not good. Don’t let other people waste your time. Keep moving.

  • Hou-san (ง ͠° ͟ل͜ ͡°)ง

    TRIPP pls help . i have met this girl 1 years ago and she is 1 younger than me . after 3 weeks ago we suddenly being so close . I didnt know what im doing , we just suddenly met at school building waiting for the rain and talk a bit whenever i said a words and she will laugh .she is popular girl and very well-known person because she is an athlete. i have met her 3-5 times this year(2017) and she laugh every times we had a conversation . we have went shopping together and play basketball before . But everytime i message this girl , she will replied me late like 5-10 minutes every of my message . it has happended several times and not just once . So do the girl likes me ? or it just a friendzone ? do i need to act ? or just let the time flow , eventually we will met in the future and be close ? haa

    • Age?

      • Hou-san (ง ͠° ͟ل͜ ͡°)ง

        she is about 17

        • Watch the videos for now and do your best. Good luck.

  • bearded biscuit

    Been with a girl for 5 months, texting regularly. I wasn’t understanding why she wouldn’t text me back for ranging periods at a time lately. I admit I’ve made the mistake a few times of over texting (nothing apparently needy, only question marks) and I was wondering how I could lay back and possibly spark her interest a little more. We are already at the point of seeing each other. I do not want to appear desperate, as I’m not and I only want to make sure that this girl has me on her mind as much as I’m on hers.

    • If you’re already seeing each other, then you don’t need to worry about texting too much or too little. You’re past that point. What you need to focus on now are your in person interactions with her. Have fun with her, make her feel good when she’s with you and see where it goes.

  • theAssassinSample

    Hey Tripp,
    I took your advice on how to start the conversation with the girl and we had some small talk but, whenever I asked her out (e.g. go to a movie) she read the message and didn’t respond. How can I start the conversation and how long should i wait to ask her again?

    • One week is be long enough. But if she doesn’t respond again, find a better one.

  • Vivek Karmarkar

    Hey Tripp! I’ve seen a lot of your videos and I like your work! I randomly approached a girl on a street yesterday and we spoke for 5 mins. I went back home and ended up chatting with her on facebook for 5 hours straight. She started talking about menstrual cycles and the next thing she said was:”I’m not interested in sex.” I kept pushing boundaries with her, and her response wasn’t exactly super positive but she didn’t mind me pushing her boundaries. Then she told me that she has a boyfriend and the type of husband she wants. And even after that, I said I wanted to kiss her. She didn’t mind but was neither positive. Today she was really unresponsive and cold on facebook. I read the blog but I still can’t figure out the sudden change in behavior. Any explanations? Infact, I don’t understand if she’s interested or not! Whenever she tried to test me, I just said she was adorable! but I’m clueless!

    • Great job on meeting a new girl and chatting to her on Facebook. But it sounds like she’s not interested. When a girl is cold and unresponsive, let her go back to her problems and you go back to your life and soon you’ll find a nice girl that deserves your attention.

  • Zbyszek

    Hey trip, I hope I’m finding you in good health and I have a bit of a situation with this girl at school. I really like her and I know she kinda likes me too it’s just when I text her I seem to destroy The attraction and I have with her and I have to build it back up over and over again by flirting with her in real life. She never seems to respond to my texts that often any advice(shes 13, 7th grade)((when I smile at her she blushes))

    • Sorry. Can’t advise minors. Adults only here.

  • Josh

    Ok so there’s this girl I really like, and we’ve been texting off and on. I want to hook up with her, but it seems like I’m initiating all of our convos. I got her hooked on me once, but it dwindled down from there. What can I text her to turn her on so that we can hook up?

    • I have videos on “sexting” on Youtube. You might want to check them out.

  • Nick Holden

    So I met this girl at a music festival. We danced, kissed (on multiple occasions and we weren’t drunk nor high), long story short, she gave me her number and asked me to text her, so I did about a day later. We’ve been texting for a bout 3 days, but I feel she’s taking way too long to text me back and I’m left hanging. Sometimes she never answers. I don’t know if she lost interest in me, or maybe she’s got a lot in her plate and isn’t able to reply. She’s in college and so am I. The other problem is that we live significantly far from each other, I’m talking about a 4 hour drive. I want to see her again, so I’m willing to make the drive, but I need to get a date first. How should I proceed??

    • Nick, if you’re counting the hours between your conversations and wondering why it takes her “so long” to reply to your texts, then you’re lowering your chances with her by being needy. And if your thinking is such that you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing because you don’t to lose her, then you’re doubling the chances of you screwing things up because your acting like she’s the only girl around. When you have a scarcity mindset, your communication will be different from that which builds attraction and keeps her interested. Fix this quick or she’ll smell your desperation and avoid you.

  • Yadhav

    Hey trip .. I need some basic tips that how to start up a conversation.. with an unknown girl.. n how to flirt with her through text ..

  • Dragon wavej

    i cant start a conversasion with a girl i dont now at on facebook how do i start pls tell me i have problem

  • eslam rashad ramadan

    This video explains how to start a text conversation wtih a girl.
    Bobby Rio and Rob Judge talk about the best first texts to send

  • Mihajlo Smiljanic

    I made so many mistakes that I lost count after 3 of them was that we talked for 5 hours last 3-4 I don’t know what to say anymore and she can’t go out with me because she is there anything I can do but go check how is she?

    • Mihajlo Smiljanic

      Oh and I forgot to mention that we have known each other pretty well for 15 years(that is how old I am).but we stopped meeting a year ago.

  • Tarumbidzwa Vinga

    Tripp do you always have to text a girl 1st every time wheb you want to go out on a date with her

    • No. You can wait for her to text you to go out on a date with her, but I wouldn’t recommend it.

  • Abraham

    Hey Tripp! What if I am really interested in dating, and especially in some girls in particular, but my school work never makes it possible for me to make dating a part of my life? I have so much work to do in college. Plus I have a work ethic and really want to maintain a high grade point average… For this reason, I am not as much of a partier because I don’t have as much time to attend those kinds of events. I have also never been very interested in drinking so my lifestyle is very different from my classmates. What advice do you have on this kind of a situation? Thanks!