The Ultimate Guide For Texting Girls

Have you ever met a girl and you were both clearly interested in seeing each other again, but for some reason you never got her out on the first date? You don’t really “get” what went wrong. She gave you her number, you started texting each other, but then something weird happened…

She started taking longer to reply. Her replies got shorter, and eventually… she faded away and stopped replying altogether.

So what the hell happened?

It’s simple. You didn’t know how to keep her interested in you over text long enough to get her out on a date. I know, I know… texting is like a big mystery for a lot of us guys. It’s like some kind of secret language that we’re expect to already know how to speak. Girls seems to speak it just fine, but for us… it’s confusing.

But here’s the good news. When you learn the rules of the game, you can play to win. Once you learn the “secret structure” of flirting over text, it’s like having a superpower… an unfair advantage over every other guy she’s talking to. Texting IS that superpower, and here’s why it’s critical to learn it if you want more women in your life:

  • You’ll get way more dates with women who like you and want to be with you
  • You’ll know how to keep a woman interested in you in between dates
  • And those phone numbers you get from women will actually turn into relationships and sex

Also, it’s important to learn this because, if she’s at all attractive, she has other guys who are texting her as well. If she’s getting a bunch of typical, boring texts from you, and other guys are sending her texts that make her feel good and capture her interest, she’s going to go out with them and not you. Let’s make sure that doesn’t happen.

The Most Important Thing To Know About Getting A Girl’s Number

To begin with, the phone number by itself is totally useless, and here’s why: When a girl gives you her number, she’s not giving you a guarantee of a date. She’s only giving you an invitation to keep contacting her. You still have to capture her attention and get her out on a date.

In the meantime, there’s still that gap between when you first meet her and when you see her next. During that time, you’re competing with all her social media notifications, friends, family, and other guys who are interested in dating her as well.

ALL those people want her attention… just like you do, so how are you going to stand out in that sea of noise? Call her? Most women don’t answer the phone these days, and prefer to communicate by text (at least until they get to know you better). So learning how to text is no longer optional. It’s a requirement if you want to date an attractive woman.

Lucky for you, I’ve got you covered. In this post, you’ll learn:

  • 3 deadly mistakes every guy makes with texting that kills their chances with the girl they want
  • A simple trick I discovered that helps eliminate neediness and anxiety when she’s not texting back right away
  • A little-known “texting trap” almost every guy falls into and how to avoid it
  • The C.A.R.E. Sequence – your ultimate blueprint for knowing exactly what kind of text to send her and when
  • What to say if she stops responding to you or she’s giving short, one-word answers to your texts
  • And much more!

Let’s roll up our sleeves and learn this stuff. And don’t worry, it’s easy once you know the secrets that make it all work. I’ve got your back. The best way to get started is to learn…

The Foundation: The 5 Basic Principles Of Texting

Let’s start with how to actually learn about texting. The first thing you need to know is that learning how to text a girl is not like learning math. In other words, when you learn that 1 + 1 = 2, you don’t need to learn anything else to understand it better. You’ve learned the code, and now you’re done.

Texting is more like learning how to speak another language, or play an instrument, or learning a sport. In other words, there’s a learning curve. Here’s why that’s good news for you. Most guys won’t bother reading a post like this, and so you’ll be way ahead of them and have an unfair advantage. With that said, let’s dive into the five principles of texting.

Principle #1 – You must think about things from her viewpoint – You probably don’t realize what the daily reality of an attractive girl is. She only has so much available attention, and everyone wants a piece of it. What does that mean for you? I means that she’s not going to respond to your texts just because you want her to. She always has options, and so she doesn’t “have” to reply to your texts if they don’t spark her interest.

Principle #2 – Make her feel something – Women make decisions about who to give their attention to based on how to they feel in the moment. If you send plain, boring texts like “Hey, how’s it going?” all the time, she’s not going to get any emotional value from interacting with you over text. Don’t think of texting as a way of exchanging data, think of it as a way of giving her feelings (which she then associates with you).

Principle #3 – Metal is easier to bend when it’s red hot – Let’s say you want to bend a metal pipe. It makes sense to heat the pipe up first so it bends easily, right? Well the same thing applies to her emotions and decision making process. If you give her a spike of positive feelings with your texts and THEN ask her out… that’s like heating up the metal and then bending it. Much easier, right? When you ask her out while she’s feeling good about you, the chances of her saying yes are much higher.

Principle #4 – Always be closing – After you meet her, you should be leading the interaction forward toward some kind of relationship (either romantic or just sexual). Don’t just have regular conversations over text. Keep in mind that you need to get her out on a real date and take the steps toward beginning a relationship and getting physical together.

Principle #5 – Master the High-Status Filter – Guys often lose their chances with a woman because they put too much importance (and pressure) on that one girl. Instead try this: act as if you’ve got a dozen other women texting you, and that you’re someone who is high status. If you had a lot of women texting you, you’re not going to try and have long, drawn out conversations with one woman. This will help remind you that you need to get her out on a date, not waste time becoming her texting buddy. The High-Status Filter also helps when you’re feeling anxious and waiting for her to reply to your messages and she’s taking longer than you want.

3 Deadly Texting Mistakes Most Guys Make

Imagine if you were about to start driving a car, but you had one foot on the gas and one on the brake. Would you go anywhere? Of course not! But would you waste gas, waste time, and put stress on the engine?

Absolutely. It’s a total waste of resources, right?

The same is true when you get a girl’s number and start making any of these three deadly texting mistakes. You already put the effort in of getting her interested in you and getting her number… but if you start making these mistakes and she loses interest (and stops replying), then it was all for nothing. The first thing to learn here is how to take your foot “off the brakes” regarding texting. Then you’ll start moving forward automatically.

Mistake #1 – Trying to build attraction over text – One of the most important things to remember is that it’s better to build attraction in person when you’re face to face, not over text. I’ve seen lots of guys use text to try and tell stories, be funny or sarcastic, asking her deep questions, etc. Before long, she loses interest, starts replying less and less, and then just stops replying altogether.

Mistake #2 – Waiting too long to invite her out and set up the date – The main reason you get a girl’s number is because you’re not able to take her out on a date right then and there when you meet her. Then you both get busy. The longer you wait to ask her out, she more chance she has to forget about you. Remember, she’s on social media all day long and also has other guys asking her out. She wants a guy who is going to step up and ask her out. Just go for it!

Mistake #3 – Not having a plan before you text her – Lots of guys will fire off a boring text without giving it much thought. They’ll say things like, “Hey, what are you up to?” What they don’t realize is that she gets texts like this all the time from other guys. Instead, just put a little thought into what you want to send her, and you’ll be much more likely to stand out and win her attention.

The C.A.R.E. Sequence – Your Step-By-Step Blueprint For Knowing Exactly What To Say At Every Stage In The Relationship

This is one of my favorite things that I created in my career as a dating coach. It’s a simple roadmap that lets you know what kind of message to send a girl… depending on where you are in the process. What’s great about this is that you’ll never have to worry about feeling lost and confused and unsure of what to say anymore. The C.A.R.E. Sequence solves this mystery for you.

C.A.R.E. is an acronym that stands for:

C – Close (as in “going for the close”)

A – Asking a question

R – Reminder her what she saw in you in the first place (either personality traits or topics you connected over)

E – Eliminate excuses for not setting up a date

C = Close – This is what you should start with when you first get her number. She still has good feelings about meeting you, and she gave you her number so she could see you again. There’s no reason to initiate some long, drawn out “get to know you over text” conversation. Just go straight for the close by inviting her out on a date. Remember, she wants to meet up. Now just make it easy for her to do that by offering the invitation.

SIDENOTE: Notice I said “invite” her on a date, not “ask” her on a date. There’s a subtle difference in psychology here. When you’re asking, you’re coming from a place where you are lower status than her and you want something from her. When you invite her on a date, you’re coming from the place of being an equal. It’s subtle, but it’s actually very important if you want to be attractive to beautiful women.

So what do you do if you went for the close, and she was either too busy or she just didn’t answer? Then we shift down to the second level of the C.A.R.E. Sequence.

A = Asking a question – This is actually a lot easier than it sounds. Just ask her a simple question that she can answer without putting much thought into it. If it’s easy for her to answer, she’ll probably just dash off a quick answer. Then when she does, you immediately move back up to stage 1 which is going for the close.

Here’s a simple example:

YOU: Hey, weird question. Which is better… dark chocolate or milk chocolate?
HER: Definitely milk chocolate. Why?
YOU: (this is where you shift back into going for the close) – I was thinking of hitting up this gourmet chocolate bar sometime in the next week. Let’s go together?
HER: That sounds great actually 🙂

And just like that… BOOM, you got a date! Now here’s the funny thing. If you had just texted her out of the blue and asked her to go on the date (after she had already ignored your previous messages), she probably would not have responded. But since you re-engaged her with the question, now it’s back on again.

SIDENOTE: You also have to decide if you even want to pursue a girl who gives out her number and doesn’t follow up with you. She might be a flake, or she might just have been busy and forgot to reply. If you think she’s worth pursuing, then go for it… but don’t think that you have to use the C.A.R.E. Sequence with every girl. Sometimes you just have to let them go when they’re not responding so you can reinvest your attention into girls who are more interested in you.

R = Remind her of what she saw in you in the first place – This is stage 3 of the sequence. What you’re doing here is sending her a quick reminder of something you either talked about, or a sample of your personality that she liked. If you were funny, then now is the time to send her something funny, like a funny GIF or meme. Just go to and search for “funny memes”.

Why do this? Well maybe she’s just been busy and forgot what it was that she liked about you, and she just needs a little nudge to remind her. Maybe you two connected over your love of ethnic food, so you send her a text saying:

YOU: Hey, I’m cooking some Indian food tonight. Do you like to cook?
HER: I love Indian food! I can’t cook it, but I can eat it… lol.
YOU: I actually know an amazing place to get Indian street food. How about we go together sometime this week?
HER: Really? I’d love to!

Now if you notice in the first text, I sent a combination of stage 3 and stage 2. First, I reminded her of what we connected over when we first met (ethnic food). Then I also included a simple question she could respond to without thinking (Do you like to cook?).

Once she responded, then I went for the close. You see how you work backwards toward stage 1 where you’re going for the close? That’s how you use the C.A.R.E. Sequence.

E = Eliminate excuses – This is the fourth and final stage of the sequence, and it involves getting her on the phone to set up the date right then and there. This stage is very useful for girls who are being difficult and won’t commit over text to going on a date. Maybe she’s just playing hard to get or maybe she’s not sure if she’s interested in you enough to say yes. In that case, it’s okay to use a little bit of strategy to gently move things forward.

Here’s what you do. You can either use stage 3 or stage 2 (or both like I did in my example above with the Indian food). As soon as she responds, you call her while her phone is already in her hand. Then it will be hard for her to not answer, because you will know she’s avoiding your call if she doesn’t pick up now… and she won’t want to hurt your feelings.

Yes, I know this is putting her on the spot a little bit, but honestly… she’s been playing hard to get for a while now. It’s time to take away the chance for making excuses to put things off even further. Here’s what it would look like with the example above:

YOU: Hey, I’m cooking some Indian food tonight. Do you like to cook?
HER: I love Indian food! I can’t cook it, but I can eat it… lol.
(Then call her as soon as you send that text.)

Once you’re on the phone, you can tell her about the amazing Indian street food restaurant you know about, and that you’d love to take her there. The phone call is a chance for you to reconnect with the same “vibe” you both had when you exchanged numbers in the first place. Then (hopefully) you’ll both be feeling the same positive vibe after being on the phone for a few minutes, and you can invite her out on a date.

Main points to remember about the C.A.R.E. Sequence:

She wants to meet up with you. The C.A.R.E. Sequence is about making it easier for her to say yes in a smooth and natural way.

  • NEVER tell a girl you’re using any kind of techniques or strategies on her. She wants things to feel natural and effortless. It’s okay if you’re doing a bit of work so she can feel that way. One of the greatest feelings as a man is creating a little magic for her to experience. Don’t discuss the C.A.R.E. Sequence with her or any other techniques for that matter. Just let her enjoy how easy it is to connect with you.
  • Always start with going for the close, and then work your way through the stages until you get a result, or until you realize it’s time to move on to someone who is more interested in you. And by the way, moving on would also be a win for you. You don’t waste time on girls who aren’t into you.

Common Mistakes And Pitfalls To Avoid

  • Asking a bunch of interview questions over text. Questions like, “Where are you from? What do you do? How long have you lived here? What are you studying in college?” – And so on. She will find it boring, so don’t do it. You’ll find that stuff out as you get to know her in person.
  • Not texting with enough girls. When you’re texting with multiple girls, it helps keep your mind in the right place. You’ll be less needy, and you’ll be more relaxed and authentic when you’re not trying so hard to impress that one girl.
  • Telling her you want to hang out and then saying, “Let me know”. Listen, she wants a guy who lets HER know and asks HER out. Don’t put her in the position of having to ask you out if she’s interested. Girls like it when you step up and lead.
  • Being too eager and too excited. When you do that, you’re basically saying that you’re not the kind of guy who is used to communicating with attractive women. That’s going to turn her off and make you seem like you have no life and that girls don’t find you sexy. Be cool, hang back, be authentic, and keep the interaction moving forward so you two can actually start dating.
  • Responding right away all the time. When you do that, you’re setting up the expectation that this is what you’ll always do. Then when you don’t respond right away in the future, you’ll have to deal with her being upset or worried. Also, when you’re always responding right away, it makes it seem like you have nothing going on in your life. So don’t do that. If it’s not time-sensitive, then wait a bit before responding.
  • Sending sexual texts and pictures (sexting). Believe it or not, girls post screenshots of that stuff on their Facebook and Instagram for all their friends to see. I’ve seen this happen MANY times. If you send a girl something that’s too sexual toward the beginning of getting to know her, she’s going to embarrass you by posting it (probably along with your name and photo) for everyone to see. The Internet is written in pen, not pencil. Don’t be stupid. If you already have a sexual relationship with her, then of course it’s okay, but definitely not before.
  • Not caring about spelling. Girls always complain about this. Don’t spell like a nine year old kid. It’s repulsive to intelligent women. Don’t use words like “B4” instead of “before”.

In Summary

I hope you enjoyed this post. It contains everything you need to know in terms of overall strategy for texting girls. Now you just need to practice. Remember, learning how to text girls is like learning to play an instrument or a sport. It takes time to get to the place where it’s effortless and automatic.

The good news is that you have a proven strategy laid out here before you. That means you won’t waste months and years with painful trial and error, not to mention losing out on countless opportunities with girls. That’s what happens when you end up practicing the wrong stuff. You get bad results. This post is designed to get you practicing the right stuff.

The best thing for you to do now is to put this stuff to work right away. Look through your contacts and initial some C.A.R.E. Sequences on the women you’ve been texting with.

Bookmark this post and refer back to it often. Also, if you got value from this post, then be sure to share this with your friends who also want to learn more about women.

Tripp Kramer

P.S. – One last thing. I prepared a short video for you (see below) that teaches you seven of my best text messages. You’ll definitely want to see this before you start practicing what you learned in this post.

Free Video – Learn The 7 Deadly Text Messages She Can’t Resist!

Now that you know the overall strategy of how to text a girl so things go smoothly, let’s take it one step further. Instead of you having to come up with things to say, I’ve already done the work for you. I went ahead and created a special video for you which gives you my top seven texts that get girls to reply to you FAST!

You’ll learn:

  • The same night sex text. Send this to her when you want her to come over to spend time with you (and feel good about doing it). She won’t feel like it’s a cheap booty call, yet she’ll still know that it’s going to be an R-Rated encounter.
  • The anti-flake text. Use this when a girl has to cancel plans with you, but it seems like she still wants to see you. What you say in this moment is critical, because it’s easy to lose her completely at this point.
  • The “get her chasing you” text. This is an easy way to get her feeling more eager and excited to meet up with you.
  • The girlfriend text. I love this one. Send her this after you two have agreed to start dating and she’s now your girlfriend. This will make her feel really happy to be dating you (she might even brag about your text to her friends).
  • The friend zone destroyer text. Use this if it seems like she’s about to put you in the friend zone. This will let you flirt with her in a very subtle way that she can still feel without it being “too much”.
  • The rapid reply text. This creates instant (and intense) curiosity, and she’ll have to reply quickly before it drives her crazy.
  • The instant date text. Send this when you’d like to invite her out on a date and you want to know exactly what to say.

The video is free. Just enter your primary email in the link below and tell me where to send it.

7 Deadly Text Messages She Can’t Resist

Bonus Troubleshooting Section

Surprise! In order to make absolutely sure you’ve got everything you need, I created this extra section to address any common problems or questions that come up.

To begin with, most of the problems you’re going to experience come from the fact that she’s not attracted to you. If she’s attracted to you, she’ll respond. Girls want to meet guys, date, and have sex. With that said, let’s get these problems handled.

QUESTION: I don’t know what to say in my text message. If you’re worried about saying the right thing, you still think you have to have a big, long conversation over text. You don’t. Just focus on going for the close and getting her out on a date. If she’s interested in you, she’ll say yes.

QUESTION: What if she doesn’t respond to the initial text? She probably didn’t get enough of a sample of who you are and your personality. It’s up to you if you want to invest. If she’s just not responding, she’s not interested. It’s best to pursue someone else than wasting time on a disinterested girl. It’ll just frustrate you and make her feel uncomfortable.

Remember, girls (typically) aren’t wired for confrontation like men are. She’d rather just go silent and not reply to you than have to explain why she’s changed her mind and doesn’t want to go out with you anymore. Why? Because some guys overreact and start calling her nasty names (or make physical threats) if she rejects them, so it’s easier (and safer) for her to not reply. Don’t take it personally. She might just be scared to say no. It’s okay to let her off the hook, even if she was interested to begin with. People change their minds, and it’s okay. There are lots of other great girls who would be happy to date you.

QUESTION: How do I “revive” a dead phone number (an old number you haven’t texted or called in a while)? That’s easy. Just send her what I call the “CPR text”. It’s like sending her a jolt of positive emotions. Just send her a funny image, meme, or GIF. Usually she’ll respond, and then you can initiate the C.A.R.E. Sequence.

QUESTION: What if she’s texting, but not agreeing to meet in person? That usually means you’ve become a texting buddy. She’s not invested and interested in you sexually. She might be happy to text with you because she’s bored during the day. Then she’ll meet up with the people she actually wants to spend time with. It’s best to stop texting with her. You’re investing your attention into a relationship that will go nowhere. Cut your losses and move on.

QUESTION: What do I do if she flakes, stands me up, or cancels plans? Chances you waited too long to ask her out in the first place. Remember that women base their decisions on their emotions of the moment. She might have forgotten how she felt about you when she was with you.

If you get her number early in the night, text her that night and see if she’ll meet up with you. You’d be surprised how many girls will. Also, don’t set the date too far out or you risk having too long of a gap between the first meeting and the first date. Then it’s much easier for her to justify flaking on you.

But what if she does flake? Be unreactive and use the C.A.R.E. Sequence. But why try again when there are many other women. Is a flake someone you really want to see again? Think from a place of abundance.

QUESTION: What if I call her and she doesn’t answer the phone, but texts me back instead? She might be busy and can’t talk. Don’t assume she’s ignoring you because she doesn’t like you. It’s really no big deal. Be unreactive, and don’t call attention to it. Proceed with a statement of what you’re up to and then invite her out.

QUESTION: I’m getting mixed messages from her and I can’t tell if she’s interested in me. What should I do? It’s much more simple than that. If she’s interested in you over text, she’ll be agreeing to meet up with you in person. If she is, then don’t worry about whether her messages are totally congruent and she’s professing her desire for you over text. She might just not know what to say, OR she might be playing hard to get with you because she likes you. Just go for the close and get her out on a date.

QUESTION: How do I get her to not cancel our plans? The main thing that determines whether she keeps plans or not is how attracted she was during the initial interaction. When you get her number, text her within 24hrs and go for the close. Don’t set the date too far out or you risk her forgetting how she felt when she was with you initially.

QUESTION: How do I avoid sounding needy? Don’t send a lot of texts, especially random ones that have nothing to do with anything important. Don’t send stuff like, “Hey what’s up? How are you? Etc.” Also avoid texts that try to “get” something from her… like attention or reassurance that she still likes you. Before you hit SEND, ask yourself if your text has a point to it, or if you just want her attention. Focus on going for the close instead.

QUESTION: What do I do if I’m not getting a prompt answer? Remember, you’re not trying to have a long conversation over text. Focus on the close and getting her out on a date. And make sure you’re texting other girls so you’re not so dependent on this one girl. Remember to use the High-Status Filter and imagine that you have a dozen other girls texting you. It’ll help you not be so focused on this one. Of course you can focus on one girl, but wait until you are actually dating before you do that. A phone number isn’t the same as a girlfriend that you spent time with regularly.

QUESTION: How do you keep the flame alive with daily texts once you have a girlfriend? One word. Don’t. I’m serious, don’t try to keep the attraction burning with texting. Reserve that for in-person dates. You can do a lot more to keep the relationship exciting when you’re face to face than you can over text.

QUESTION: What do I say to avoid scaring her off? First, make sure you aren’t sending sexual messages before you’re actually dating (and even when you start dating, proceed with caution with sexual texts). Second, don’t become too eager or needy and send her lots of messages. Definitely don’t keep reaching out for reassurance that she still likes you. That will drive her away fast! If you find that you’re getting anxious a lot and need reassurance, then go read the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. Learn about the anxious attachment style and how to handle it.

QUESTION: What if she’s giving one word replies like, “yeah” or “sure”? She might not know what to say, or she might be busy. As long as she’s agreeing to meet up for the date, you’re fine. Don’t jump to conclusions about her not being interested in you. If you really want to know her reason for giving short answers, wait until you’re dating her before you ask about her communication style over text. Otherwise you risk sounding too needy.

QUESTION: Why do girls like to text and not talk on the phone? A couple possible reasons for this. Either you haven’t asked her out yet, and she’s getting bored of just texting and not being asked out on a date (which is what she was hoping for to begin with). Or, the other possibility is that she’s not that invested in you and doesn’t want to spend time talking with you yet. That’s not going to change by some magic text message. You have to get her out on a date to build that connection.

QUESTION: What if I got her number online? Attraction happens in person, so get her on a date quickly. If she’s doing online dating, she’s meeting other guys… so keep that in mind. Don’t try to start the relationship by texting back and forth. It will fizzle out fast. You must go for the close and get her out on a date so you can connect face to face.

QUESTION: How often is too often when it comes to texting? Anything more than what’s needed to get her to meet up runs the risk of being too much, at least at first before the relationship is established and she knows she likes you. I’d say “less is more” in this case. Then when you start dating, you can always talk about her style of texting and if she prefers to stay connection over text more often. But wait until you’re dating.

  • ravi

    Hey……..i badly want a gal 2 be my gf.We text gud talk for 3-4 hrs daily….but she said tat she’s hvng a bf…bit she hangs out with me more tan him n she also kissed me wic she didnt do with her bf.
    So wat do i do?
    Her bf is not so carng abt her….rather she more frank with me….
    Watz gng on her mind?
    Does she love me or she jst treats me like a frnd?
    Help me !!:-(

    • Hey Ravi, to be honest it sounds like this girl is taken. I don’t advise any one go after a girl who has a boyfriend/husband. There are way too many women out there who are single and want to be with you! Try to stop texting this one and move on.

    • Mac

      Don’t know if am too late, but move things along fast and to the bed (that will really help and u can then take this to gf status more easily). she obviously likes you. you just have to be the lead and take the lead before your window of opportunity closes.

      • Thanks for the help Mac! Good tips.

  • Rajath Vampire

    hey.. i like a girl .in facebook,can u help me to start a conversation with her.and she doesn’t know me atall n me too.plzzzzzzzzzzz help me

    • Here is my formula for talking to girls on Facebook: Q1-R1-Q2-R2-C. Q1; ask her an interesting question to trigger a response. R1; her first response. Q2; comment and second question (flirty): Make a funny comment and ask her another question. R2; her second response.C; close the deal & ask her out!

      • John

        So the formula works even if you don’t know the girl at all? Can i simply ask a question on fb to a girl who doesn’t know me? I don’t want her to think i’m a creep….

        • Max He

          I have the same problem..

          • Then there’s your answer as well.

          • Chris Hagin

            There’s a girl I like at my school but she has a boyfriend. I liked one of her pics on Instagram and she stared at me in class the next day and I stared back so idk if that was a good thing or a bad thing. She added me back on snapchat and she views all my stories too. That may not mean much but i’d like to think it does lol. She’s a junior and I’m a senior. Any tips?

          • Yeah. Have some integrity and wait until she’s single before trying anything.

          • Chris Hagin

            Thanks for the help Tripp

          • No problem. Keep learning. You’ll get there.

          • Chris Hagin

            I usually ask her for stuff about school and I feel like one day she’s gonna ask me why I ask her all the time and no one else. What should I say? I ask her a lot of stuff cause I like her but idk

          • What’d I just say?

          • Rodney Gamble

            yea i’m kinda in thesame situation

          • Chris Hagin

            Tripp told me to just wait until she’s single.

          • Tripp

            I would add “Don’t just sit around and wait on other people.”

          • I would add “Don’t just sit around and wait on other people.”

        • Yes. Follow the formula. You can’t control what she thinks, so don’t worry about that part.

  • Randy Sharp

    Sometimes things just become… boring! Making use of texting to touch upon the law of proximity is a terrific dating strategy. I have had the luck of meeting quite a few ladies here in Boston after dating them online at Kovla, and for me personally it works perfectly. If right after meeting a girl at a local club, I get her mobile phone number, I usually text her instantly even though we are still right next to each other. This particular principle takes advantage of the hilarity that is natural for the situation of texting a person you are standing right beside or next to.

    • Hey Randy! Thanks for the great tip! Sounds like a fun way to make new friends to go out with. Mind if I steal it?

  • ROAR

    hey bro, i need a serious help, there is a girl in our uni that i like her but she is not responding me msg sometimes she is like a nerdy girl always studying but the main point is that when we meet face to face then she gives me every single signal that she like me i took her for a long drive one night it was fun but i dont know what to do next should i tell her that i like her or what, help me bro please…

    • Tell her you like her, but without telling her. Show her. Take her for another drive. Ask if she would like to do something. Or better yet, ask if she would like to study with you sometime, then go eat afterwards.

  • brett lafave

    i really like this girl a lot we had sex already and we hang out sometimes when we can i dont know if she likes me or not i never asked her if she does. when she she stoped texting me then today i use some of the things you said to say. then she started texting me again. i wanna her ask her out but i dont know if she is ready to yet.But i am ready i dont wanna scare her away. we might be hanging out today . kind of asked her to go to the movies. but what should i do.

    • Take it slow. Ask her if she’s ready and she will let you know.

  • unknown

    Last day i met a girl that was my best friend dance partner. Is it be ok if i start flirting with her?

    • If she’s just his dance partner, sure, why not?

      • Tarumbidzwa Vinga

        Tripp I want to know what do u do if a gal agrees to go on a date with you but its scheduled days to come like after a week..what will be doing with her like how do u text and to what end??

        • Tarumbidzwa Vinga

          And I would like to break down how to avoid being needy when you are texting a gal to go out on a date with her…thats holding me back tripp

          • To avoid being needy, don’t text her too much.

        • If a gal agrees to go on a date with you, plan accordingly, show up and have fun.

  • Unknown

    hey..i’d be very thankful, if you help me get out of this..
    i was in a relationship with a girl for past couple of years and suddenly she brokeup with me with a random reason. It has almost been a year since we broke i texted her about an week ago, she replied me back..these days we’re in touch with each other using social she wanted, we met few days ago and we rarely have a conversation on the phone..
    i was wondering weather if you can suggest me a way i get her back in my life again..
    sorry for my english..

    • Start by moving slowly when contacting her, and show up as your best self, you’ll be giving yourself the best chance possible of getting back together.

  • Meester Alegorae

    my friend said he wanted to hook me up. so apparently he met this random girl and she gave him her number. later tht day wen i met up with him, he gave it to me cuz he already had a girlfriend and told me to hit her up cuz he didnt tell her his name yet. so i was wondering, how do i talk to this girl? i dont know her at all.

  • Christian Tirado

    Hey guys i suggest you find girls that make you feel confortable and relaxed cause on the contrary, the fun may be for her but not for you, and you guys diserve to have fun as well. Its a great way to keep things healthy and appealing

    • Great advice Christian. Thanks!

  • Kevin Wolfe

    Hey Tripp its this girl I like I’m not sure if she like me but I caught her staring at me for a long time and even I caught her she was still looking at me we never talked that much we talked a couple of times I said something to her and made her laugh I actually made her laugh a couple of times…How do I found out if she likes me?

    • By asking if she would like to do something with you 1-1. If she says no or makes up an excuse, then she doesn’t. If she says yes, or suggests another time then she does. Good luck.

    • To find out if a girl likes you, look at her body language and if she is giving you the positive signs that I talked about earlier.

  • Blue

    Hi met a girl in library got her number , she seemed very willing to give her number after we spoke for a while ! But on text she’s literally a dead fish (no offence to the women out there) trying to be funny flirty etc… Should I stop or try a different approach ?

    • Stop texting her and try talking to her. Use your voice.

  • Raphael

    Hey Tripp. I like a girl far too much but she often seems not interested in me so i get in a bad mood and vice versa. In my country we dnt talk officialy english so it would be awkward to text her in english. We’re still at scl but summer is comming. I rarely talk to her f2f and she talks often about me with friends, and most of the time ignore me telling them she dnt responde to me(while she does). She have strong personnality and can be mean and agressive, but last year she was shy with me ONLY. She often give me signs(like eye contacts and a smile from a distance). In a groupe on whatsapp she used to be mean with ume in front of friends but i like her way to far to let this influance my feelings towards her. I really wanna help and would like a reply plz. (If u could give me some time i could give you more info ) this is my e-mail:
    looking forward for hearing from you!

    • I don’t suggest trying to get with girls that are mean and aggressive. Get with girls that are sweet and nice. Your luck will change. Good luck.

  • apil

    hlo can u give me examples

    • The examples are in the blog post.

  • musse ali

    Hey tripp,

    I often run out of things to say to girls and dont really know how to end a conversation too well. Can you please help me?

  • musse ali

    Hey Tripp,

    I’m have a probelm when it comes to texting girls. when I ask them what there up to they usually reply with “Nothing much you?” and I dont really know how to get them to say more or steer the conversation towards a topic I want to talk about. Can you please help?

    • Getting a girl attracted to you by text is much the same as doing it in person. It’s by knowing what you want, not waiting too long to advance, not pushing too hard, and knowing how to have fun with her.

  • liam matthews

    Hey, so i met this girl and she lives 3 hours away so we cant meat up, and we both like each other, and i want to date her but idk if she does or not cause its only been three days, i need help!!!!

    • Talk to her daily and apply what I teach in my videos to build the attraction with her.

  • liam matthews

    Hey Tripp, i met this girl and she lives 3 hours away so meeting up isnt an option, and we both like each other but i want to ask her out and i don know if she does or how to do it if she does

    • You don’t have to meet in person to ask a girl out. Use the phone or Skype.

  • Mike

    I text a girl I like a lot but it seems that it’s going no where because she never wants to hangout with me what should I do?

    • Meet 5 other girls, get their numbers, and start texting with them. Do this immediately and let the girl that wants to go nowhere, go there by herself.

      • richard256

        i like your reply @TrippAdvice:disqus i actually tend to use that alot

  • Karthik

    Hey Trip
    I’m finding it difficult to keep conversations going and I do a lot of overthinking while texting. How do I overcome it?
    I wanna text a girl,who has just joined college?
    We have talked in face book for a while.How shall I start?

    • Say hi and go from there.

  • Ryan

    hey theres this girl she seems interested in me but i dont know how to get her interested and know if shes engaged pleae help

    • Talk to her.

      • Ryan

        I did but now she has no interest in me.
        Thanks for the help though.

        • It happens. Now just try with a different girl.

  • lonely boy

    Max your suggetions are awsom it helped me a lot. I just want to ask I just can’t wait to text my girl how can I control it.

    • Get your mind on something else. Get busy with something other than waiting for her to text you back. Or just turn off your phone.

  • Abakar

    Hey trip
    I’m not really good at talking to girls at all in person or text to make them go out with me so how do I talk to them

  • Maninder Singh Bachhal

    i have been love with a girl for three years and we r having great time with each other nd i havn’t sex with her yet…would it be okk ??that our relation will go as well without having sex?need your helpful suggestion(._.)

    • Are you two dating? Is she your girlfriend?

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  • oz

    HI tripp, i started to use my tinder account and i got a mach 2 days ago and i still dont know how to start a conversation!!!! my goal is to take her out on a date to get to know her, can you give me a tip about how to start talk with her, what to say and how to persuade to go out on a date? i would really appreciate, thanks man

    • Starting a conversation on Tinder is much like starting one in real life. Have a nice smile, show interest, and make her smile by saying something interesting.

      • oz

        ill try my best, thanks man 🙂

  • Frodo

    Hi Tripp, I like a girl who is 6months elder than me and thinks of me as a friend. can u tell me how to get out of the friend zone and how to get elder girls to like me

  • Derek Chomi

    Trip, there’s this girl I’m into but she says nothing can happen because she has a boyfriend but she’s so into me
    What can I tell her to convince her to cheat on him

    • I don’t give that kind of advice.

  • Derek Chomi

    Trip, I’ve been asked to send pictures of me nude, I don’t want to but I don’t know aby escaoes to that, help!!

    • Like this…

  • Ashley Lobo

    There’s a girl on instagram and i want to date her but v r unknown to each other…shez in my colge frm other batch..i just want her to know that i exist n want to be her bf…should i dm her ? If yes den how should i make it interesting ? can any one assist me ?? It would be great…

    • I have a video on my YouTube channel on how to talk to a girl on Instagram. Go watch it now, try the formula for yourself and let us know how it works for you.

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  • Am Straange

    Flash back : I had a crush on my school mate . And we both smiled every time , talked at intervals …. And I thought she loved me too … But when I asked her she said that she only considered me as a friend . And I never talked with her for sometime …

    And after a week or two , she poked me on fb . And I poked back and sent a request …. She accepted it . And we messaged each other .. She also said sorry ,that the mistake was on her side … And now we are again in a talking relation .. So what should I do now …? I really love her …. How can I make the relation grow … Through texting on fb ? Because we are on school and the best way to connect is through fb ..

    Please help me , tripp …

    • Age?

    • Get her out in person and spend some time with her 1-1. Better yet, wait until you learn what love actually is and then try again.

  • Vijay Rao

    Tripp.. I need your help.. I don’t know what to do. I hope you’d reply me with the right solution taking my problem into some thinking. I live in India..Here, many girls are like I don’t wanna sex till we get married or something like that. and they also say that they don’t wanna break their parent’s trust by having sex with someone before marriage.. There’s this girl who lives a cities distance from me.. I started knowing her through Facebook. she’s like she has super hots for me.. she gets turned on watching just my pics.. she talks dirty to me.. she says she loves me but she says that it’s just out of attraction and she wants to be friends with me and stuff.. she again talks straight to me like suck my this and eat my this etc.. if u get what I mean.. she tells me she wanna have sex with me and she says that she’s restricted in her house and that she would like to meet me during Christmas.. but the problem is, there’s still 3 whole months for the day we planned to meet.. how should I keep turning her on for all the 3 months to want her have sex with me? she might get bored of me someday between our meeting date.. she says loves me and wants to do dirty stuff with me and again tells me that she wanna control herself from doing all of those. I don’t really understand her.. what do I do?? how do I make her want me for whole 3 months until we get to meet and have sex with her?? Please help with this.. Can someone please help with this?? I just want her soo much.

    • Hi Vijay. Heres what I would suggest; stay in contact with her and keep doing what you’re doing. You should try to see her before Christmas though. That is a long time to wait before seeing a girl.

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  • kalikid

    Hi Tripp ur awesome, thanks
    can i talk privatly please.

  • kalikid

    hi Tripp, ur awesome thank u,
    can i talk to u in private

  • shane

    Hey trip, i have been chatting with this gal fr the past three days, she gave me her phone number but most of her reply is one or two words… i start the text usually.. how to make her start a text and like me

    • Hi Shane. Like I told Adam, talk to her about things you two have in common; friends, events, interests. This is how you make what you say interesting to her. Try it and let us know how it goes.

  • Adam

    This girl flirts with me like crazy in person but when I text her she responds with who’s this? and one word responses. how do I get a better response from her.How do I build a better text conversation on her one word responses? Tried to close a couple of times and its usually meet with radio silence.

    • Talk to her about things you two have in common; friends, events, interests. This is how you make what you say interesting to her. Try it and let us know how it goes.

      • Adam

        I already do talk about that stuff with her Shes smiling and laughs at my jokes.I heard when she talks about other guys with me that are interested in her she is playing hard to get.She also play fights and me teases me.We call each other pet names.Tells me things like shes good at baking to sell her self to me.Keeps playing with her hair usually a huge hair flip or two,I think she also keeps pulling her very tight pants up her ass to show it off.Brushes up against me for no reason.Runs her hands through my hair.Told me she was thinking of spanking me.Another thing she does is that she will start talking to her friends about her body and sexual things and makes sure I’m close enough to overhear it.I had to run an errand in her town 2 days later she was in a bar in my town was that a coincidence?One day a few years ago I checked in to the beach and she showed up too was that a coincidence?Texting her is still like texting a robot one word answers when I try to close she says shes always busy or no response .One time she said yes but then flaked.I can’t seem to pull the trigger to ask her out in person is that what I need to do?If so how do I pull that trigger?

        • Hey Adam. Try asking her out in person the next time you two are together. If you’ve watched any of my videos on YouTube then you already know how to do this.

    • So she flirts with you like crazy in person, but doesn’t respond well by text? Maybe you should quit texting her and go see her in person. Maybe?

  • Max He

    I like this girl, whos in my class, we were really close friends. but not any more. recently, I’ve been text her using the texting formula, it doesn’t seem to be working. She said :” Please, if you wanna say hi, just say hi, not the nickname shit”. she seems annoyed. Please help me

    • How old are you Max?

      • Max He


      • Max He


        • In a few more years I’ll be able to help you. For now, enjoy your childhood, stay close to your family and do your home work.

  • Sam Jakson

    hi . thx for ur advice

    can u use more example for How To Get The Sexting Started and How To Get a Girl Who Has Stopped Texting You To Start Texting You Back Again

    • No problem. Stay tuned to the channel!

  • George P

    13 years crush!!!we had a relationship 13 years ago,never left my mind, wanna get married with her, dont know how to talk to her.any recommendations?

    • 13 years? Wow. That’s a long time for a crush my friend. I do have a recommendation for you. Move….On….

  • Mukesh Kumar

    how to make a girl to miss u……and how to make a girl to get interested in u???

    • By being less available and by making yourself attractive to her. To get the exact steps for doing each of those, go to my YouTube channel and watch those specific videos.

  • Reinhard

    Hey Tripp,

    I was wondering if you can help me, there this supet awesome girl, I like and she likes me,but like all girls she likes somone els aswell.She and the guy are in some type of long distanse relationship, and she never sees him but she is that type of girl that just won’t give up….What can I do to make her want me more?I go out with her,I do everyting in your vids, but what can I do more?

  • Reinhard

    Hey Tripp,

    I was wondering if you can help me, there this super awesome girl, I like and she likes me, but like all girls she likes somone els aswell.She and the guy are in some type of long distanse relationship, and she never sees him but she is that type of girl that just won’t give up….What can I do to make her want me more? I go out with her,I do everyting in your vids, but what can I do more?

    • Age?

      • Reinhard

        Me 18 and she is also

        • Watch my YouTube channel. You’ll get the early start you want.

  • Reinhard

    Hey Tripp,

    I was wondering if you can help me, there this supet awesome girl, I like and she likes me,but like all girls she likes somone els aswell.She and the guy are in some type of long distanse relationship, and she never sees him but she is that type of girl that just won’t give up….What can I do to make her want me more?I go out with her,I do everyting in your vids, but what can I do more?

    • Do everything you’ve learned…with a different girl.

      • Reinhard

        Thx ok wil do

      • Reinhard

        Ok thx now I have a nother problem .

        Tripp I have this superhot girl on facebook, but we have never met, and she is one of those girls that every guy would want.Now how do I get her attracted to me, and make her want me? I have tried but she maybe responds always with, “I am busy” of “who are you ” or even ” don’t message me you are going to piss me off”.What advice can the maste of dating Tripp give me?I don’t want to be her bitch or tell her off, I want that!

        And might it be in any way possible for me to talk to you on skype or so I really need help, but if not its ok i understand.

        • To talk to me on Skype, send me an email at and put “Interested in coaching” in the subject line.

  • Toby Clouse

    Hey there is a girl Ive been friends with since high school. We just met each other again and exchanged numbers and have eachother on facebook. I want to ask her out but I think she only views me as a friend. Is it too late to change her mind?

    • Hey Toby. It might or might not be too late. You’ll just have to get a conversation started with her, take a chance and find out for yourself. I would suggest you don’t “ask her out” right away because you might scare her away by moving too fast. Try getting to know her first, talking to her more often and then ask if she would like to “catch up sometime”.

  • Angina Malowich

    how to text my ex to get her beck??? make her want me again?

  • Ancient Lune

    Hey I have crush on a girl that I like. I know her
    since a couple of years ago. I have a hard time to hang out with her because
    her mom does not her hang out with any boy. Does anyone have any advice for me?

    • If her mom doesn’t let her hang out with any boys, then you can’t do much about that. So you can either wait for her to become an adult who can make her own decisions, or find another girl who isn’t as held back from doing what she wants.

  • Peter Kinky

    Great post “Text to Sex “. I will try to talk any girl use your steps.

    • Thanks. Sounds like a good idea.

  • lnnn

    I got a girl (well mature woman) who doesn’t seem big on answering texts or getting into very long sessions at all.
    “2. Always Being The First One To Text
    If you’re always texting her first, she won’t be that excited about receiving messages because she’ll always be expecting them.But if you can be patient and let her text you first, you won’t look desperate and needy.
    A good rule of thumb for texting a girl back is however long she takes to reply back to your texts, take twice that long to reply back to hers.”

    She doesn’t seem to match well with most of this list, but at this point seems very unlikely to text me first. I’ve kind of known her a year, but was seeing someone else. We had a nice night out with mutual friends 2 fridays ago which did end in a kiss, but it’s hard to get her to respond to get something going again (she’s slow to answer mutual female friends as well, it’s not just me). Kind of looking for the situation that breaks through a little more. There’s some good ones off one of your videos that’s not here, but I’m a little unsure of the Missy or Cutie type phrase. She’s a bit of a bad ass who rides harleys, and plays a bit of a tough girl. We also both have tough schedules (plus she went out of town for thanksgiving) that prevented me from texting since the holiday (8 days now). Mostly the times I can, she would be asleep or working…. or if she replied at her best time, I would be sleeping or working (so the reply lag would be long, or she’d blow it off I think). We’re 54 and 45 if that helps. But I’m just looking for something that fits that rare time I can say hi.

    • Hi Innn. If there’s a long lag between your texts, then I highly suggest meeting up with her in person rather than trying to engage her in texting conversations. Constantly trying to pick up where the last text left off will only cause a drain on your interactions with her. So meet up with her instead and get to know her in person.

  • Emil Bucht

    Does this work in High School ?

    • Not intended for high schoolers. Thank you.

  • travis bardwil

    I met a girl awhile back at a bar and got her number. Later that night my phone essentially died to the extent that it needed to be reset and I consequentially lost the number.
    Fast forward to the conf. championship game at my school, my buddy that was with me saw her and she gave him my number but because of his pregaming he forgot where he put it on his phone till a few days after. Well it’s finals time and I set up the plan with her but she’s understandably swamped atm and said she’ll get back to me. Later I asked her what her favorite wine is and she answered and I forgot to hit send till the next day and tried to put that little “hey so sorry completely missed this!” But no response. Three days later I’m sitting here, finals end Wednesday and I don’t know how to break the ice and get the ball rolling here. Do you have any ideas.

    Ps. Would’ve messaged her on Facebook back when I got it in October but she had a very common name and couldn’t find her.
    Also I am 19.

  • travis bardwil

    t a girl awhile back at a bar and got her number. Later that night my phone essentially died to the extent that it needed to be reset and I consequentially lost the number.
    Fast forward to the conf. championship game at my school, my buddy that was with me saw her and she gave him my number but because of his pregaming he forgot where he put it on his phone till a few days after. Well it’s finals time and I set up the plan with her but she’s understandably swamped atm and said she’ll get back to me. Later I asked her what her favorite wine is and she answered and I forgot to hit send till the next day and tried to put that little “hey so sorry completely missed this!” But no response. Three days later I’m sitting here, finals end Wednesday and I don’t know how to break the ice and get the ball rolling here. Do you have any ideas.

    Ps. Would’ve messaged her on Facebook back when I got it in October but she had a very common name and couldn’t find her.
    Also I am 19.

  • travis bardwil

    Hey Tripp,
    I met a girl awhile back at a bar and got her number. Later that night my phone essentially died to the extent that it needed to be reset and I consequentially lost the number.
    Fast forward to the conf. championship game at my school, my buddy that was with me saw her and she gave him my number but because of his pregaming he forgot where he put it on his phone till a few days after. Well it’s finals time and I set up the plan with her but she’s understandably swamped atm and said she’ll get back to me. Later I asked her what her favorite wine is and she answered and I forgot to hit send till the next day and tried to put that little “hey so sorry completely missed this!” But no response. Three days later I’m sitting here, finals end Wednesday and I don’t know how to break the ice and get the ball rolling here. Do you have any ideas.

    Ps. Would’ve messaged her on Facebook back when I got it in October but she had a very common name and couldn’t find her.
    Also I am 19

    • Hey Travis. To break the ice with her, send her a very simple “Hey there, how are you?” No need to apologize or explain or go into what you went into here as that would only complicate what is best simple and fun. Get the conversation started as if it were the day after she gave you her number. Let go of any fears you may have of saying the wrong thing and say something short simple and fun and go from there.

  • Max He

    what kind of questions are interesting questions that can trigger a response when texting on facebook? Can you give me an example pls?

    • This website is not intended for minors. Thank you.

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  • Sukh Ghumann

    hey tripp i love a girl and she is from india and we are texting each other almost everyday but i want to take it to the next level can you help me,its just like a long distance texting and i really dont know what to do.
    pllss help

    • You should read this blog post that you’re commenting on. It’s all about that.


    I have a crush on a girl in my college. I texted her hi and she also did the same and after that i messaged her that”i would like to be your friend” but she didn’t reply anything and few days after i message her “hi” again and she didn’t replied me anything. I never talk to her in the college. What should i do now?

    • Tripp

      Hey Raunak. What you should do now is text another girl and don’t make the same mistake of saying “I would like to be your friend.” That is a strange statement to make because the natural thing to do is so simply be someone’s friend. You don’t make friends by going up to people and saying “Hi. I would like to be your friend.” would you? No, you just do.

    • Hey Raunak. What you should do now is text another girl and don’t make the same mistake of saying “I would like to be your friend.” That is a strange statement to make because the natural thing to do is to simply be someone’s friend. You don’t make friends by going up to people and saying “Hi. I would like to be your friend.” would you? No, you just do.

  • Nick Bai

    I asked a girl to go out but she says she’s busy, but actually she has some time. What should I text?

    • Nothing. She’s not interested.

  • Kirby Kirby

    Hi, Tripp. Can you help me?

  • Syam

    Hi tripp. Can you give me some advice? I have had this crush for 3 yrs now. I used to msg her alot until i confessed my feelings to her. But from what i know, she never had a boyfriend before. Im not sure if i should give up or not..

    • If responded positively to your confession (sigh-smh), then you should not give up. If she responded negatively, then move on. Keep it simple.

  • Luke Scheer

    Hey Tripp, so there is this girl I had my eye on for months in high school but I never really talked to her except in our art class where we sat right by each other for the whole year. Long story short she moved away and a day before she moved i was going to ask her for her number but i totally choked. anyways first day of college on orientation tour she was there. She ran up to me and said hey i havent seen you in forever (5 years) and we talked for about a minute and she said that she had to head to head to head to class and she gave me her number. I texted her the next day saying “Hey Sarah its Luke, it was great seeing you again wanna catch up some time” its been two days and she hasn’t responded what do you recommend.

    • 1. Two days is not a long time. And if you think it is, then you need to do more things. 2. Try texting her again. Maybe she didn’t get the first one for some reason.

  • Luke Scheer

    Hey Tripp, so there is this girl Sarah (shes 19 I’m 20) I had my eye on for months in high school but I never really talked to her except in our art class where we sat right by each other for the whole year. Long story short she moved away and a day before she moved i was going to ask her for her number but i totally choked. anyways first day of college on orientation tour she was there. She ran up to me and said hey i havent seen you in forever (5 years) and we talked for about a minute and she said that she had to head to head to head to class and she gave me her number. I texted her the next day saying “Hey Sarah its Luke, it was great seeing you again wanna catch up some time” its been two days and she hasn’t responded what do you recommend.

    • I recommend that you text her again. She was obviously happy to see you. Why wouldn’t you text her again?

  • KoSmos

    hey tripp,
    i like a girl sooomuch that i cant even explain..she was my junior in clg, i never dared to talk her in person. one day i dared and i told her about my feelings towards her via text, she rejected. after that for a long time i didnt text her. after a long time i again started texting her,she is replying but short replies or 2 to 3 sets of conversations… i want her to be my gf.. plzz help me tripp

    • Watch all my YouTube videos ASAP! You will learn everything you need to know about how to make her your gf. Oh, and more thoughtful typing wouldn’t hurt either.

  • Hey Tripp,
    Last year I talked with a girl I really liked, we flirted with each other and had fun conversation over text, yes only in Facebook and Phone, I didn’t had guts to ask her out for anything as it was awkward for 2 high-schooler to go around and roam around >.< then later she moved to different country and we didn't had conversation for months. Later back a month she came back here, Shall I go and text her around again ? and How shall I remove the awkwardness for asking out her ?

    P.S : We are in highschool.

    • Pick up where you left off and try again. When the time is right to ask her out, do it.

  • justin

    hey tripp,

    yesterday was the second time i’ve randomly run into a girl that works out at the gym i used to go to. i was taking photos at a store for work and she happened walk in looking for perfume. so i ended up walking around with her and we were playfully testing out different scents and whatnot. before she left i got her number and here’s what happened:

    ME: so i think that was officially the first time i’ve ever been perfume shopping? haha -justin
    HER: hahaha well thanks for your help!
    ME: of course! i’m glad we randomly ran into each other yet again, haha. so what other craziness do teachers usually get into during spring break?

    since she hasn’t texted back, i’m assuming that i came off too strong, too long, and escalated a little too quickly, diverging too far away from the initial reaction. my other text was gonna be “of course! have you tested it out yet? it looked like you were going to the gym”. how do i re-engage her?

    • Give it a while until your “over-eagerness” fades and then try again. I strongly suggest using one of my “7 Deadly Texts For Making A Girl Want You”. Look into it.

  • Akshay Kale

    Hi Tripp , I have a crush since I was in school now I’m in college . I expressed my feelings to her 3 or 4 times .but she don’t say yes or no she just say she don’t want to get in relationship now .Now she doesn’t reply me on fb but doesn’t block me still . what should I do plz reply

    • Not replying is not a good sign. There are more girls out there for you. Keep looking.

  • Dave

    Hi Tripp, I met a girl and we had good chemistry but I did not make a move because I was in a relationship then. How do I let her know I’m single now?

    • By starting a conversation with her and then asking if she’d like to do something with you sometime.

  • QQQ

    Hey tripp! I had a crush on my school mate, we know each other but we didnt talk much school. But recently I started to text with her and some times she doesnt reply and some times she would text me first. So what should I do? Does she feel actually feel interest texting with me?

    • If sometimes she texts you first, then yes, she is interested in texting with you.

  • tiago

    Hii, i met this girl 2 years ago on summer holidays and i had a crush on her back then, this summer i will be with her. Last week I started to talk with her on twitter i don’t know if she is into me, only chated with her 2 times via twitter ( this week) and don’t have things or subjects to talk with her. Can you help me please ? We’re kinda good friends our schools are extremely close, i don’t want to mess this up …

  • Louie A Johnson

    So basically don’t try to hard?

  • Oliver

    Aright so I kind of feel I’ve burnt my bridges here but here’s how it goes: I first meet her IRL at her home (through my dads work). Waited about 1 week followed her on social medias and then sent away a casual snap: “Hey :)” she replied with a “hello there”. Then I sent, All good with you? :). She replied “OMG it’s you!”. I sent, yeah it’s me haha, all good? :). We then snapped for around 2-3 hours but just casually. Then I snapped her the next day at afternoon, no reply. waited for 1 day sent another casual “Hey, all good with you? :)” She replies with “Yeah all good with me, and you? :)” blablala just another casual back and fourth conversation. Then I sent her a text around lunch the next day, no reply. So she doesn’t really reply to my snaps at the day. So I thought, OK I’ll let her snap me first now. Waited for about 4 days and felt like I have to snap her agian now, it’s been 4 days cmon. So I snaped her agian, I started the conversation, AGIAN. But we snaped for about 2 hours agian but just casual, AGIAN! So now is my question, can I move forward from this? And if so, how?

    • Yes, but you’ll have to escalate it and stop texting her like one of her friends. No more casual conversations. Take it somewhere or try again with someone else.

  • Billy

    Hi trip,
    Me and this girl have been texting for a while and she is starting to set me but I don’t know how to sext back and response
    I need your help

  • Cleveland

    Hey trip, there’s this girl I’ve been talking about for a while now. And she straight up told me she likes me. My problem is she’s constantly wanting to hang out together, but I ask her “what’s your schedule like?” Reply; “I’m not sure”. I’ve studied and followed all your tips, and of them 90% work on ever girl -expected that “one girl”. How is the best way to get her out?

    • You’re already using the best way to ask her out. Problem is, it doesn’t sound like she’s as attracted to you as you are to her. Go to work there and then go back to asking her out later. Good luck.

  • dimitris sevastidis

    How to start a conversation with a girl on facebook that I don’t know?
    And how to tell her to meet up to know each other better?

    • Use the “Facebook Conversation Formula” that I give away and explain on my Youtube channel.

  • Mike

    Hey, congrats on this great blog. Need some advise…
    Ive known this girl for 3 months now, started texting, dating and had sex on our second date. After that, we had 4 maybe 5 more dates, all of them having sex and everything was peachy, until a couple of weeks ago, since I have been asking her out, and she has postponed the date. Last ime she did that, I replied with a 2 sentence text, saying that I was hoping to meet her, but if she couldnt, it was ok…very casually and a bit colder than the previous warm texts….. So everything up to know has been text based…I like this chic…wanna continue having sex with her…thinking about calling her if she doesnt text back soon (its been 48 hours since this, but I havent seen her in 2 weeks)…is it ok to call?

    • Trying harder to get a girl usually has the opposite effect that we would like. Try backing up and putting more time and space for her to come around.

  • Akhil

    Hey Tripp…..I have exchanged the number with a girl on flight. She responds to the text, but whenever I ask her out neither she says no nor yes. She can simply ignore me but this also is not happening. I am still holding on to it without being a creep that I do not text her a lot. Even I have called her once she spoke to me for a while. She is high quality girl though.

    • Congratulations. Keep it up!

  • kasim sk hasan

    hey trip..theres a girl at work who i really like…we talk over whatsapp like daily…but at office its just *”hi,hello”*,i cant ask her out because of her parents,please help me how can i make this girl like me through chatting?

    • If a girl’s parents are a problem for you, my suggestion is to start meeting older girls who can make their own decisions.

  • Theo

    I’m texting a Girl in my class on snapchat and i doesn’t know if she is intresed in me as i am to her. I think she was intresed in me like a month ago but then i wasen’t intresed in her then but now i am! Like i really like her but i doesn’t know what to do…?

    • I wouldn’t worry about it. A month from now, you won’t even care.

  • Damion Smikley

    Hey Tripp
    There’s this girl I like but she’s two years older than me. She says she don’t date younger guys, but I really like her and want her to be my girlfriend. What do you suggest I do?

    • I would suggest that you find a girl who isn’t hung up on such a trivial thing like a couple years age difference. Shouldn’t be too difficult, since most people aren’t hung on things like that.

  • Joshua Campbell

    What if the girl is always waiting for the guy to text back?

    • If he likes her, then it’d probably be in his best interest to start texting her back sooner.

  • Vinnie

    I love this page advices and there’s a situation with which I’d like some help
    there’s this girl, we’ve known each other since 3 years, we used to text normally like friends do, I’ve started developing liking for her lately, and have done lot of stupidity which made her text lesser and lesser, how do I get her to text back normally again and eventually ask her out?

    • After messing things up with a girl, the best course of action is to take a break from her for a while. Make positives changes in yourself, your life, and your communication, then try to pick things up again after it’s been long enough to get a fresh start.

  • nagulaudaykiran

    hey i have a problems with my gf some time

    she will say i like u some time say i love u and i hate u now wt should i do plz help me

  • Jay

    Hey…i luv a girl for a very long time and we talk almost everyday via text rarely in person or on phone…i confessed my feelings to her and she put me in friend zone…though she cares about me a lot bt i can’t get out of friend zone…and she is a bore type of girl coz she is more into studies and work….dats y our conversations are gettin dry…
    So please help me…and I’m clear about my goal i want to marry her….

    • I have some tough news for you. It doesn’t sound like she is interested in you and I’m afraid that anything you say or do in an attempt to change this will be a waste of your time and energy.

      I’m here to help you get the girls who want to do the same things you do. To go out and do fun things together, to go out on dates and laugh and flirt, to be together physically and intimately, to be together in a long-term and fulfilling relationship.

      There are girls who want these things and girls who don’t. The girls who do are the ones you should be going after, if you want to win at this game of girls and dating. The ones who do not are a waste of time and effort and will only make it harder for you to win in the future.

      If you want to have the girls and the dating life that you deserve, go after the ones that are happy with themselves and their lives and are more open to meeting new people and having fun and let the others go back to their problems.

      Don’t let a girl’s disinterest in you, (which has more to do with her than it does with you) get you down or keep you from trying again with another girl.

      Keep your eyes on your goals and don’t let the girls that aren’t interested slow you down.

  • Christophe97

    Hi, I like a girl but she is family but very very far, and I normally see her twice a year, but she has the look and the brains. I really have no idea how to chat with her because when the family come together I’m normally shy and I want to show her who I am.. Any ideas? Thank you!

    • You’re not supposed to go after girls in your family. Even if they live far away. Try talking to girls in your area that you are not related to.

  • hakeem

    im in high school and cant go in person in front of this girl i like and dont know how to talk to her online either what do i do

    • Watch my videos, listen to my podcast, and read my blog. You have a lot to learn.

  • Brad C

    So I have this girl that I have talked to very little and after a few text I asked her out and we agreed on a date… Then she canceled and rescheduled for next weekend I still have to wait a week and I’m a bad texter and flirting guy we haven’t spent time in person but 5 minutes talking and I don’t know how often I should text her or what to say when I do please help me soon fast please… This is a girl I spent my childhood with and just remet each other after 8 years and we still have that attraction for each other. Should I try to text her everyday or skip days? I have watched just about every video and I don’t feel like I have what I need

    • Brad C

      I hope this can get a response asap
      It would be very helpful

    • If you watch videos on what to do and won’t do something because you don’t feel like you have what you need, then you’re wasting your time. Don’t wait until you feel a certain way to do what you need to do. Watch them again, wait for a part that resonates with your situation and do what is suggested.

    • Kevin Methvin

      Tripp, I seem to not fully grasp how much or how little to text a girl that I’ve been out with a few times (post closing the deal). With my career, I make my own schedule and end up with some free time here and there. I seem to try texting said girls a few seperate times a day. In the morning, afternoon and night. Am I trying too hard? I have a girl who I’m into (had an awesome 22 hour first date, she stayed over) and I’m afraid that I may be coming on too strong now (yet again). She’s supposed to be coming over tonight and the texts replies from her at fewer and fewer over the past two days. She’s blaming it on work (I didn’t ask, but she would preface it). I don’t want to screw this up (last three relationships with girls were a couple months and they lost interest) Help!

  • Tkash Smashed

    Hey! Tripp i need your advice

  • Tkash Smashed

    I liked a girl long back (before 4 years)and we talked for some days via texts and she was also intrestedin me suddenly she started getting personal and wanted to ask me about having sex! And i replied to her like ” i like you ” and i don’t want to do this with you because i love you this happened all via text and after this she suddenly started bragging about the guy she met and that he taught me all this and that about how private parts of body works and all and she blocked me one day via text and we loosed contact so i did a SILLY thing and i told the guy via text of whom she used to brag all day about that ” she is a slut! And fucks rvery guys she meets!” He puked all my text with him to that girl and we lost contact. After 4 years i texted her and apologised to her and she expected my apology and she said it is okay! And i also told her to that extent that it is been 4 years and when you will meet someone like me bring that guy in front of me and prove it to me that the guys is. Correct for her. Then she was confused and blown up by my text and told me that i am 4 years younger i have forgiven you and what will i do with her as she is 4 years younger than me i get her to talk to me somehow. What happened before 4 years was that she showed all what i had told to that guy via text to her mom. We talked for like 3 days and she told me that it will take time for to accept that you have changed . Suddenly her mother comes to notice that we are talking so she texted me that she can’t talk with me anymore so i wrote a long essay about things which happend when we first talked and also told her that my feelings had never changed and also made her understood all which has happened between us and after 4 years. She replied to me next day and said she cried and was thinking all day and didn’t wanted to reconcile and said i am in fear that you will do things ehich you have did in past and also my mother does not like you i have done everything to get her back but she doesn’t want to reconcile and all this happened via text and we have hardly talked over phone. I have developed so much feelings for her via text and I don’t want to move on and I don’t know what to do now? Should i move on or should i use your method “pickup the phone” and ask her finally that should i move on? Help me over this tripp

    • I think you know what you should do, but you admit that you don’t want to. And if you don’t want to do what you know you should do, then what’s the point of asking what you should do? For now, you can take your chances and keep trying to get with her for another 4 years and see how that goes. Or you can try meeting one of the other billion girls around and try something different. What do you think?

      • Tkash Smashed

        Hey tripp your advice is helpful. Currently i am having mixed emotions on whether i like this girl or not? + she won’t talk to me because of what her mother thinks about me and said that her mother don’t like that she talks with me so what should i do to get her talk to me and meet her in personal we have talked much over whatsapp but have never met in personal i have seen your videos and i have got insipiration from it. But how do u get back her in my life and get her talking with me and meet her in pesonal so that i can show her that i am a changed person and get to know about her what is her perspective in life and what does she feels for me?

        • CYA means see ya later, which means goodbye, which means she is not interested in talking anymore. Find a girl who is more deserving of your time and attention. Stop wasting your time with girls who don’t appreciate it or you. There is another girl, and probably more girls, who will appreciate your attention. Find and get to know them. Stop living in the past and make a new future for yourself. Good luck.

          • Tkash Smashed

            Thanks Tripp! Fir helping me out i was in a great confusion since 4 years and gradually i have started to develop feelings to loose interest in her and your advice is working thanks a ton! ?

          • Tkash Smashed

            Tripp! I have another question should i casually text her on her birthday wishing her happy birthday at the midst of the day her birthday is on 1st november so should i wish her? It has been 4 weeks that we haven’t talked yet and so should text her wishing on her birthday will it sound too much clingy or desperate?

          • If you’re wondering that, then you’re still not ready. Make yourself strong and stop reaching.

          • Tkash Smashed

            I just found out that she has blocked me from all the social media and i don’t know why plus this time it was not as rude or it was not such an obscene. But after thinking over and over i came to the point that i don’t want her anymore and i don’t need her plus she will never comeback to me and i also don’t want her. I had sone plenty of mistakes in past and it makes difficult for me to even try and approach to any girl out there and i have started yoga and getting fit nowadays and it feels good. From the last few days i have even started to feel up beat. Her birthday is around the month and i am not sure that if she has blocked my contact number so to check that ahould i call her up on her birthday and wish her or should drop a simple text. And if i do need to call her should i ask her to meet in person or just ” happy birthday! Have a nice day ” will work.

          • Working out = good idea. Thinking about what to say to her on her birthday after she blocked you on all social media = bad idea.

          • Tkash Smashed

            I know it’s a bad idea but now that i developed a proper lean posture the girls at my workplace are hitting me and i don’t have a clue. I simply ignore them because i find myself guilty i don’t know for what reasons i am feeling so but i don’t have any clue i just don’t want any relation right now because i personally find it difficult and because of that i had developed anxiety before and due to that i haven’t had slept for a week finally i had to visit a doctor to get some good sleep. I have noticed fee things from our past texts that she has done yhis for second time and out of nowhere she will leave me by giving some shitty reasons which is difficult for a man of normal prudence to believe. Her birthday is round the next week help me tripp. Should i call her and just wish her happy birthday or should i leave her. I want a last chance and i want to just wish her no hard feelings and want to see what happens there after

          • Find another girl to talk to (better yet, multiple other girls) and stop asking what you should do with this girl who has made it clear that she is not interested. Man up and find something else to focus on that will be good for you and your future. Do not write in again until you do. I look forward to that response.

  • John Marshall

    Hi Tripp To begin texting you must have patience with a woman, Soon you will have a good rapport, When she is ready you can then start sexual texting, Your new girlfriend will then be doing the same as you telling you what are her sexual fantasies.The truth is that you can make a woman orgasm with text. The surprising aspect is that no other man has done this to her before. Provide her with a orgasm.

    • Patience is a virtue. And in person is better than texting.

  • Suraj Prajapat

    Hey Tripp, I got a text from a girl as “send me one more message and I will fuck your case:)”with an emoticon.I don’t know what to text her back or whether text her or not or whether call her and make a meet.I met this girl a year ago in an exam hall. I was sitting next to her and build some sexual tension and took her number. At that time I didn’t knew how to text a girl but now I know. Since a week I text her 4-5messages flirtatious not in need to get a reply and got a reply as this with an emoticon. Pls tell me what should I do.

    • It depends on what she meant by that last text. If it was a good thing, then send her one more message to see where it goes. If it wasn’t, then she’s probably not interested.

  • Mohd Akmar

    hey tripp , ilike a girl , but a few days ago i saw a boy with her on instagram , maybe her bf , but i still like her

    • Thanks for sharing.

  • Amir Al

    Hey, my school had just started, and I have met a girl in this school, and I started to like her. She had just crushed with her boyfriend, I asked her for a relationship she answered that she is having a break, I asked her to let me know when she’s ready to be my gf, she said that we’re going to be together, but not now. Ok, right know I am confused between texting her every day or not and what to text her about, and also confused between sitting with her at school break or not. And what should I do to make her more interested by me, and to make her forget her old bf. Can you help me with this? (NOTE: I didn’t know this girl before school).

    • By not being so eager to be in a relationship with her. Nobody wants what they can have so easily.

  • Britton Thompson

    Oh Great & Wise Tripp, I come seeking your expert consultancy.
    I met a girl at a bar this past weekend where we hit it off quickly and gradually developed a rapport as the night went on. She gladly gave me her number when I asked her if she’d like to meet up again next weekend. She even asked for my number in return and for the correct way to spell my name in order to accurately store it in her contacts lists. At the end of the night she hugged me as I was leaving and said it was great meeting me.

    However, I texted her the next day saying I enjoyed meeting her and looked forward to hopefully seeing her again soon. And ………….nothing. No response from her for two days by now. Perhaps I didn’t meet the guidelines of producing an emotion within her by sending a flirty, short, fun message in the first text. But how could that first text have been so underwhelming that it totally undone the chemistry we had from the night before? Also, if all this is true, why are women so damn strict in the protocols and unwilling to forgive a little slip up with a man here or there in the beginning stages? Are they really that inflexible and discriminant when vetting potential suitors? I mean, do we have to always be perfect in our procedures when we’re pursuing them every time? So tell me Tripp, what should my next move be from here?

    • Casanova2067

      It’s a game don’t take it too seriously pal ;-). It’s not only women who are like that, it is everyone who’s got choice be it a gal or a guy. There was probably nothing wrong with your text, it’s simply that she meets a bunch of guys all the time and she’s interested in some more than in others. I wouldn’t waste much time thinking about that chick, there is plenty of fish. Your mindset is crucial buddy, even more important than looks 😉

      • Great answer. Thanks for the assist!

  • Courage Chimombe

    hey there is this girl at my school i really like her but the problem is i told her i loved her yet we rarely know each other and she sayed its impossible to love someone you dont know. I still love this gal and sometimes we chat and sometimes she doesnt reply, we talked face to face but we at the same school. What should i do to win this gal?

    • Stopping telling girls you don’t know that you love them, might be a good start.

  • John Marshall

    Hi Tripp Reading some of the experiences of men texting women women online has surprised me.How little they understand women. I have just been texting on WeChat. First I was on Facebook and my online girlfriend said to me I am having a shower. Please go on WeChat I have something to show you.I went on the app & she had attached a naked picture of herself. We then began Sexual texting. After the texting she said you do know you have made me orgasm with your texting. This time it was my girlfriend that decided to become very sexual via text.Texting now I think as become the quickest way to have sex with a Girlfriend.

    • Thanks for sharing your experience. Perhaps you can share some of your “understandings of women” so we can learn something from you.

      • John Marshall

        Hi Tripp My age is 61 I am a teacher of mainly adult women. My Girlfriends are very much younger than me. My girlfriends are of varied nationalities. Chinese,Filipino, Ukrainian, British, Dutch. The hardest by a distance are traditional Chinese ladies. With Chinese woman of this type when they tell you they miss you very much. It means they love you and want to live with you.
        You will need many months of texting. Tell them stories about your past romantic experiences. But do not become overtly sexual with them. You can tell them that you want them to sit on your lap & kiss and cuddle and hug them. Only text like this after a period of time. Leave it in their minds what comes after, Imagining being with you is enough.The texting style depends on your rapport with this woman. My one advice first make them jealous most men have options. Do the push pull technique. Give them time to miss your conversations. For all women show interest in their lives. Most men are stupid when texting a woman for the first time.Let them chase you. Many times they reach out to you. In the world there are many lonely Beautiful women who are great inside and out. Watch out for scammers. But they are very easy to spot.
        Be a Alpha Male who has a life and many options.Make them to want to be part of your life. Attached picture of Chinese Girlfriend.

        • Thanks for sharing. Wouldn’t say “months of texting is required” cause it’s more often achieved before that, but better later than never.

  • M.Raj

    I like too many girls but im scared to talk them or her

    • Stop being scared.

      • M.Raj

        Bro its easy to here but hard to talk any girl plzz tell me how

        • To get an answer, please make your question understandable, specific, and about a real situation you’re facing. Thank you.

      • rahul Raja

        I am not scared but really my mind is out when I am near my special girl

  • John Marshall

    Hello Tripp I use Skype,Face book messenger & WeChat. My reasons for communication is to meet & have a hot girlfriend and have a relationship with her. I am able to travel the world & meet many different types of women. If you are a man that is happy & successful & confident it attracts all women. A man like that will go up to a woman and converse in a relaxed & open way. He shows no fear of rejection. Other men will watch & will not understand how he can be able to be like this with any woman. My experience comes from teaching them over a long period of time. Be aware by communicating with a woman online. They can fall in love with you.
    A good subject to discuss with them is Astrology. I am a Virgo male. My girlfriends are Taurus & a Virgo woman. Women are much more emotional than a man & love communication. Men are logical. The time of the month effects her. Study Female behavior on the internet. Tell them about your romantic adventures. All you are doing is telling them about your life experience. Your stories can be as sexual as your experience. Do not hide that you are a man with experience of women. I have actually told them that I am going on a date with a another woman. Many women are jealous of other women. A real man has choices.He is selective who he wants to be with. Be a Alpha male. Watch James Bond films. Would he fuck a fat woman. no. Does he like intelligent smart women yes. Real men are relaxed. Not afraid to be sexual with a woman at the right time. Knows when a woman is interested in him. I was on a flight back to England a few months ago. In the seats in front of me a woman turned to man and asked do you speak English. He was not able to answer. I leaned forward in my seat & whispered to her would you like to chat with me. She answered yes.I asked the man sat next to her to move & I sat on a seat next to her. The seats were in a row of three, He sat where I was sitting where I was before. I chatted with this lady during the whole flight. I was wearing a dark blue suit. Other women watched what I did and knew I was a Alpha male. Being shy & having no confidence you will just get rejected. Hope this information was informative.

    • Hi John. Thanks for sharing your story with us. There’s a lot of useful advice in there for any guy who wants to know how to have the mindset of a guy that is smooth with women.

  • vladdie k

    Yo Tripp, you da man! So I have been talking to this girl that lives like an hour away from me for maybe 5 weeks or so, and have hung out ( yep, overnight ) on my side of town twice, and had a pretty good time. She mentioned shortly thereafter the last encounter (about 2 weeks ago) that she wants to hang out again, on her side of town. Ok cool right, but up to about a week ago, we pretty muched chatted as usual for a few days ( I took a couple day break to play the ‘game’) we got back into it just a tad, then bam! She damn near vanished, I called her once one day, texted her twice total (each one on separate days with a day in between) , and the last message a few days ago was a simple pic mail of the 2 of us in our last encounter…..and nothing… now what?

    • That’s called “ghosting”. It’s when someone, instead of talking to the other person to tell them how they feel and let them know what they plan on doing like a decent person, ditches the relationship without bothering to say anything to the other person. It’s the most uncool way to end a relationship, and sadly very common. So for you, I would say send one more text telling her your thoughts and that you would like to know what hers are. This is a very fair question to ask because you just want to know. She will then either let you know good news or bad, or she’ll continue to ghost you. Either way, you’ll have your answer. What you do after that is up to. Make it positive and don’t dwell. Good luck.

      • vladdie k

        Thanks for the reply and input Tripp. She is one of the hottest females, if not THE hottest, I’ve been with in probably 8 years, so once again I appreciate your professional knowledge on this, even tho I knew right from the get-go, that I was probably her ‘flavor of the month’. I’m not expecting any kind of response ever again from her, but that month in October was the 1st, time-frame experience, that I am proud to say that, I was ‘used’! Lol

  • Bryan

    Hey tripp. How to text a girl and make her like me.when I am texting,i always have the same words to say to them.and I don’t know how to text them and meet up with them …

    • Read this post.

      • Bryan

        What post you talking?

        • Scroll up. Read the title of the post above. You’ll soon figure it out. Hopefully.

  • Gibran

    Hey man i really need you right now, i’ve met this girl two years ago, then i had bad first impression on my first text but 1 week or 2 weeks after the first time because i had no experiences on approaching a girl. I made up my mind to create a new account and say sorry to her and she was okay with that. And i moved on for 2 years and i want to get to know her again right now and i want to get her out now but she’s in Perth and I’m in Jakarta. But i’m going to studying in Melbourne next year, i think she won’t think the past me right? What should i do, thanks mate. Btw do you have whatsapp? i think it’s better that i contact you personally

    • If you’ve known a girl for years and nothing has ever happened between you, then it’s usually best to meet a new one, or better yet many new ones and don’t wait so long before asking for help. Life is short and time is limited. If you ever have a question that starts with “I’ve known this girl for years….” then the best and really the only answer is to meet new girls asap.

  • Luis Cazares

    Hey when you ask a girl what she’s doing over the weekend and she Tell’s you and she ask why
    Is she expecting you to take her out?

    • No. She wants to know why you want to know. So tell her.

  • pranav

    I Just got out of a relationship, and to be honest it was a mess. recently, i started talking with an old friend of mine, who is a friend of another girl from my high school (she was/is judgmental about me).

    Anyways, we have so many things in common, right from love for writing to bad past experiences, and after few days of conversations with her, i think, she is quite an interesting person and i would really like to ask her out. The major problem is, i am out for my masters, and i would have very few chances to visit her. but i think i can make it work.

    so my concerns are – how do i make sure that we are on same page?
    how to make sure that i do not come out as a needy person?
    and above all, is it logical to take things ahead in this situation?

    It would be great if you could advice me on my situation…


    • You will know if you guys are on the same page by asking her to do something with you and she says “Yes.” And by that I mean something like “Would you like to go out for dinner and a movie?” Because there’s no confusing this to be anything other than a date. Her reaction will give you your answer to that question. To not be needy, just don’t do things that a needy person would do like “trying harder” or asking a desperate question like “She said no, now what do I do?” Be ok with “No.” Is it logical to take things ahead? Why does something need to be “logical” for you to do it? Stop wondering if something is “logical” for you to do and take the chance of going after what you want. Hope that helps and good luck.

  • dre curry

    Hey I’ve watched a few of your videos after trying to look things up to see what going on .. basically we meet on tinder and started to hangout out . The first time we got into a disagreement we needed up having sex .after that we had sex every time we meet up . Than out of no where she started being short and distance. Maybe she felt I was getting feelings for her . Ever sense than i have to be the first one to reach out to her and a few times she actually doesn’t text me back .. we were texting one day and set up a time to actually see each other again .the next day I texted her to ask if she could come earlier and she never texted back and we never seen each other . So I gave it three days and texted her and she texted back and after I texted her after she never responded .. I don’t know if she’s not interested anymore or is playing hard to get . Any tip would help . Thank you in advance

    • Stop confusing yourself by getting caught up in those games. Wait for her to text you. If she does, she’s interested. If not, then it might be time to take a break. Don’t let someone else’s issues or confusion become your issues and confusion. Know what you want and stay focused.

      • dre curry

        Hey thank yu for the information .. so actually a few days later she reached out to me on social media twice . One with a picture of her self and than she wrote me .. I responded back the next day , very short . Than we talked for a little I set up a time to hangout when I was free next week , and she said just let her know. She’s open all she has is work . I didn’t respond after . Should I keep giving her space and be short with her? And should I reach out to her when I get back to set up seeing her ?

        • Tripp

          Keep doing what works. If what you’re doing is working, keep doing that.

        • Keep doing what works. If what you’re doing is working, keep doing that.

  • Yash

    I have mate that girl after 4-5 yr. How do I start chatting with her.. And make her interested in me for chatting

    • I don’t understand your question. Please try again. Also, your question will need to be specific and relevant to a situation you’re currently facing. General questions like “How do I get a girl interested in me?” are answered on my Youtube channel and podcast. Please refer to those for things like that.

      • Yash

        I am chatting with a girl, how should i ask her for date

  • Yash


  • Gaurav Deep

    Hey, I have been texting a girl from two months n we met twice. I talked to her about marriage n getting in to a serious relationship.I think it was too early for me to do that n it made her feel as m desperate to b with her. Now she talks to me but make excuses for meeting up. I told her that let’s not talk as she doesn’t respond well. She said she will stick around Mr n just trying to figure out the best for best for us. Guide me please

    • You already know what your mistake is, so don’t do it again. With this one, you can try taking a break and waiting for her to come around and trying again, but the most important thing is to learn from your mistake and try not to make it again. Because if you are talking about marriage in your first meeting with a girl, this means that you’re not complete and need someone to be happy and that repels girls fast. Good luck.

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  • Kevin Methvin

    HelloTripp, I seem to not fully grasp how much or how little to text a girl that I’ve been out with a few times (post closing the deal). With my career, I make my own schedule and end up with some free time here and there. I seem to try texting said girls a few seperate times a day. In the morning, afternoon and night. Am I trying too hard? I have a girl who I’m into (had an awesome 22 hour first date, she stayed over) and I’m afraid that I may be coming on too strong now (yet again). She’s supposed to be coming over tonight and the texts replies from her at fewer and fewer over the past two days. She’s blaming it on work (I didn’t ask, but she would preface it). I don’t want to screw this up (last three relationships with girls were a couple months and they lost interest) Help!

    • In general, yes texting a girl morning, noon and night is too much. However, in your case where a girl stayed over and you’re into each other, then no it would not be too much. In fact, most of the time when a girl gets intimate with a guy quickly, she likes the reassurance of more communication.

  • Mohammed Aldulaimi

    I met a girl on Snapchat and I liked her, but I’m a little afraid to talk with her. So I need some help how to start a text conversation with her. ( she lives in Maine and I live in Virginia).

    • Thanks for the question. I made an entire video series on starting text conversations with girls. Best part is, it’s free and you can watch it right now. Go to my Youtube channel and go to playlists. You’ll find it there.

      • Mohammed Aldulaimi

        Thank you so much that video helped me a lot

        • You’re welcome. Keep learning and practicing. You’ll get there.

  • Ndumiso Makawa

    Hey there Tripp. I am a huge fan.
    There is this girl that Iike. I have started texting with her but I have no idea weather she likes me or not. Is there anyway I can find out without her knowing that im tryna find out.

    Pleaaase help.
    Thank you.

    • xShadow215

      It’s not exciting if she knows right away. The best way to do it subtly is to flirt. Just compliment her: Say something about how pretty her hair was today, make up a joke and if she reacts positively and responds with an emoticon then it’s a sign that she might be into you. Some girls are just trying to be “nice”. The way to check if she likes you after flirting with her is by seeing if that changes the way that she interacts with you in anyway. Signs: She starts conversations with you, she stares at you often, she says “hi” every time she sees you. Ask her if she’s okay with you calling her, you might also pick up clues from the tone of her voice. Whatever you do, just don’t actually tell her that you like her on text unless she does that.

      • Great advice here.

    • Yes. Ask her to do something with you. If she says yes, then she likes you. Let me know how it goes.

  • Debangshu Ari

    I shall state you my problem today which is completely different from all other ones.

  • Debangshu Ari

    Here I go.
    I liked a girl one year younger than me. Accidentally, she is my student now and getting attached with student is not a good idea. She will be my student for six more months. I like that girl really and I wish to make my move when she won’t be my student anymore. Any suggestions?

    • I can’t help you. You’re not supposed to be thinking about your students like that. A teacher is supposed to be a friend, mentor and confidant to their students. Not wondering how to date them. How that being said, since you’re about the same age, wait until she’s not your student anymore. But for now know your role and slow your roll.

      • Debangshu Ari

        I am concerned about my role and I can assure that I do possess all qualities of your expectation. In spite of getting judgmental towards me, I confess that I really had feelings for her.

        • I understand you have feelings for her. My previous advice still applies.

  • Hey there. I don’t reply to rants but if you’ll rewrite your message into meaningful sentences, I’ll be happy to try and help you. Thanks.

  • James Phillips

    Hey is there any tips on how to gain attraction with your ex fiance, she fell out of love with me. We was together for 9 months but is saying she wants to be single and independent

    • Yes there ARE. Find my video called “How To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back”. This should give you a lot of ideas for getting her back. Good luck.

  • walle

    l have a girl that im liking, but lately l didnt know your tips so l texted like im in the friendzone.Now l wanna show her that l love,how can l do that tripp?

    • Check out my playlist on Youtube called “How To Text A Girl”. It has a bunch of videos that will teach you how to text her right.

  • Rodney Gamble

    Hi Tiripp

    so i seen this girl that i really like at my school, and i told her my feeling towards her and she gave me her number but i don’t know how to male or keep conversation in other to ask her out. is there a way you can help me with this.

    • I have a podcast called “How To Talk To Girls” that covers this extensively. Feel free to check it out.

  • Sahil Malik

    Hii…..I like a girl of another class and I try so many time to talk to her but she shy so much and can’t talk with me .what can I do?

    • Try writing it down. Say “Since you are unable to communicate verbally how about a note instead?” She will write something down and let you know where to go from there.

      • Bryan

        Tripp…How u

      • Bryan

        Tripp…What kind of stuff can I say,when talking to a girl on the phone?

        • Things you have in common is usually easiest.

  • Nikhil

    I love a girl since too long… Now we came in touch again and it’s been around one year. We used to talk on msg but when she calls me or ask me to call, I became completely blank over call… How to overcome this issue?

    • Make a list of things to talk about and the next time she calls you, use it.

      • Nikhil

        Thank you I will try definitely ?

  • joseph

    tripp what if she tell u that she will let you knw when to meet up

    • It’s not good. Don’t let other people waste your time. Keep moving.

  • Hou-san (ง ͠° ͟ل͜ ͡°)ง

    TRIPP pls help . i have met this girl 1 years ago and she is 1 younger than me . after 3 weeks ago we suddenly being so close . I didnt know what im doing , we just suddenly met at school building waiting for the rain and talk a bit whenever i said a words and she will laugh .she is popular girl and very well-known person because she is an athlete. i have met her 3-5 times this year(2017) and she laugh every times we had a conversation . we have went shopping together and play basketball before . But everytime i message this girl , she will replied me late like 5-10 minutes every of my message . it has happended several times and not just once . So do the girl likes me ? or it just a friendzone ? do i need to act ? or just let the time flow , eventually we will met in the future and be close ? haa

    • Age?

      • Hou-san (ง ͠° ͟ل͜ ͡°)ง

        she is about 17

        • Watch the videos for now and do your best. Good luck.

  • bearded biscuit

    Been with a girl for 5 months, texting regularly. I wasn’t understanding why she wouldn’t text me back for ranging periods at a time lately. I admit I’ve made the mistake a few times of over texting (nothing apparently needy, only question marks) and I was wondering how I could lay back and possibly spark her interest a little more. We are already at the point of seeing each other. I do not want to appear desperate, as I’m not and I only want to make sure that this girl has me on her mind as much as I’m on hers.

    • If you’re already seeing each other, then you don’t need to worry about texting too much or too little. You’re past that point. What you need to focus on now are your in person interactions with her. Have fun with her, make her feel good when she’s with you and see where it goes.

  • theAssassinSample

    Hey Tripp,
    I took your advice on how to start the conversation with the girl and we had some small talk but, whenever I asked her out (e.g. go to a movie) she read the message and didn’t respond. How can I start the conversation and how long should i wait to ask her again?

    • One week is be long enough. But if she doesn’t respond again, find a better one.

  • Vivek Karmarkar

    Hey Tripp! I’ve seen a lot of your videos and I like your work! I randomly approached a girl on a street yesterday and we spoke for 5 mins. I went back home and ended up chatting with her on facebook for 5 hours straight. She started talking about menstrual cycles and the next thing she said was:”I’m not interested in sex.” I kept pushing boundaries with her, and her response wasn’t exactly super positive but she didn’t mind me pushing her boundaries. Then she told me that she has a boyfriend and the type of husband she wants. And even after that, I said I wanted to kiss her. She didn’t mind but was neither positive. Today she was really unresponsive and cold on facebook. I read the blog but I still can’t figure out the sudden change in behavior. Any explanations? Infact, I don’t understand if she’s interested or not! Whenever she tried to test me, I just said she was adorable! but I’m clueless!

    • Great job on meeting a new girl and chatting to her on Facebook. But it sounds like she’s not interested. When a girl is cold and unresponsive, let her go back to her problems and you go back to your life and soon you’ll find a nice girl that deserves your attention.

  • Zbyszek

    Hey trip, I hope I’m finding you in good health and I have a bit of a situation with this girl at school. I really like her and I know she kinda likes me too it’s just when I text her I seem to destroy The attraction and I have with her and I have to build it back up over and over again by flirting with her in real life. She never seems to respond to my texts that often any advice(shes 13, 7th grade)((when I smile at her she blushes))

    • Sorry. Can’t advise minors. Adults only here.

  • Josh

    Ok so there’s this girl I really like, and we’ve been texting off and on. I want to hook up with her, but it seems like I’m initiating all of our convos. I got her hooked on me once, but it dwindled down from there. What can I text her to turn her on so that we can hook up?

    • I have videos on “sexting” on Youtube. You might want to check them out.

  • Ramses Pena

    So I met this girl at a music festival. We danced, kissed (on multiple occasions and we weren’t drunk nor high), long story short, she gave me her number and asked me to text her, so I did about a day later. We’ve been texting for a bout 3 days, but I feel she’s taking way too long to text me back and I’m left hanging. Sometimes she never answers. I don’t know if she lost interest in me, or maybe she’s got a lot in her plate and isn’t able to reply. She’s in college and so am I. The other problem is that we live significantly far from each other, I’m talking about a 4 hour drive. I want to see her again, so I’m willing to make the drive, but I need to get a date first. How should I proceed??

  • Nick Holden

    So I met this girl at a music festival. We danced, kissed (on multiple occasions and we weren’t drunk nor high), long story short, she gave me her number and asked me to text her, so I did about a day later. We’ve been texting for a bout 3 days, but I feel she’s taking way too long to text me back and I’m left hanging. Sometimes she never answers. I don’t know if she lost interest in me, or maybe she’s got a lot in her plate and isn’t able to reply. She’s in college and so am I. The other problem is that we live significantly far from each other, I’m talking about a 4 hour drive. I want to see her again, so I’m willing to make the drive, but I need to get a date first. How should I proceed??

    • Nick, if you’re counting the hours between your conversations and wondering why it takes her “so long” to reply to your texts, then you’re lowering your chances with her by being needy. And if your thinking is such that you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing because you don’t to lose her, then you’re doubling the chances of you screwing things up because your acting like she’s the only girl around. When you have a scarcity mindset, your communication will be different from that which builds attraction and keeps her interested. Fix this quick or she’ll smell your desperation and avoid you.

  • Yadhav

    Hey trip .. I need some basic tips that how to start up a conversation.. with an unknown girl.. n how to flirt with her through text ..

  • Dragon wavej

    i cant start a conversasion with a girl i dont now at on facebook how do i start pls tell me i have problem

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  • Mihajlo Smiljanic

    I made so many mistakes that I lost count after 3 of them was that we talked for 5 hours last 3-4 I don’t know what to say anymore and she can’t go out with me because she is there anything I can do but go check how is she?

    • Mihajlo Smiljanic

      Oh and I forgot to mention that we have known each other pretty well for 15 years(that is how old I am).but we stopped meeting a year ago.

  • Tarumbidzwa Vinga

    Tripp do you always have to text a girl 1st every time wheb you want to go out on a date with her

    • No. You can wait for her to text you to go out on a date with her, but I wouldn’t recommend it.

  • Abraham

    Hey Tripp! What if I am really interested in dating, and especially in some girls in particular, but my school work never makes it possible for me to make dating a part of my life? I have so much work to do in college. Plus I have a work ethic and really want to maintain a high grade point average… For this reason, I am not as much of a partier because I don’t have as much time to attend those kinds of events. I have also never been very interested in drinking so my lifestyle is very different from my classmates. What advice do you have on this kind of a situation? Thanks!

  • Abraham

    Hey Tripp! What if I am really interested in dating, and especially in some girls in particular, but my school work never makes it possible for me to make dating a part of my life? I have so much work to do in college. Plus I have a work ethic and really want to maintain a high grade point average… For this reason, I am not as much of a partier because I don’t have as much time to attend those kinds of events. I have also never been very interested in drinking so my lifestyle is very different from my classmates. What advice do you have on this kind of a situation? Thanks!

    • Hi Abraham. If you want to have a dating life, then cut down on school and work and create one for yourself. You have all the time to do whatever you want. If what you want to do is focus on school and work, that’s great. But then don’t complain about not having time to have a dating life. Your time is yours to with as you wish. School, work, friends, go out meet girls, it’s all your choice.

  • Its really amazing… loved reading this because it feels very awkward at first time to chat with a girl and ask for meet and date. Some apps seems to be helpful in that.

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  • TaDa Bdub (Bdubble)

    hey Trip so i like this girl at my work and we don’t see each other that often because we get different shifts but i started texting her and we talk but i feel like it gets boring because i make it boring. like i just run out of stuff to say to her and she sees the text but doesn’t respond. then i start up the conversation again saying hi how are you and i feel like that’s boring, that’s probably why she doesn’t reply to me. what should i do i really like this girl and need help. would appreciate if you could help me thanks


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  • هادي فاعور

    Hey.. I used to talk with a girl on fb then we ignore each other for days without texting or phone calls ..etc
    she already sent me a message (you sent this?) -flirting-
    what’s the goal of this message? maybe she wants to test if I lie on her?
    or she wants to know if I am shy? ..etc
    Note: I never sent any massege for days

    • I don’t know what the goal of her message is. You should ask her.

  • John Marshall

    Hi Tripp Online communication is a skill that needs to be learnt. Go onto the online dating sites. Produce a good profile with pictures. Waiting for women to begin communication is often effective. Many on the dating sites are scammers.But also the real women often communicate first. The women online are used to many men who are totally unable to communicate with them correctly. Your advice is needed I am sure you can help these men. Just because the woman has contacted you first it does not mean you can be sexual or send her dick pictures before you have even a good rapport. These are the experiences of my girlfriends on the Dating sites. When she has selected you as her boyfriend she will remove herself from the dating sites but she will also expect you to stop being on the dating sites. Remember women will test you. They will know if you are cheating on them. On the dating sites you will notice that she is no longer on any of them. But she will also check on you to see if you are honest & trust worthy. if you are in communication with any women they will want to know where they stand,Skype with them. Communicate with them. WeChat with them if they are living in China as they have no facebook in China. Learn how to chat sexually with woman online & enjoy the pictures & cyber sex if you both enjoy it. It is easy to turn a woman on and even help her to orgasm. It is much easier to seduce a woman when you meet face to face if you already know what she likes & how turn her on with your words.

    • Good tips.

      • John Marshall

        Hi Trip My Chinese girlfriend who lives in Beijing China she is visiting me in England.We are more than just texting friends.We both want to meet & be together. We are both busy people & we do not over text each other. At the moment we communicate on WeChat together when we both have time available.This connection has been going on together for over a year. Until now we have not been able to meet. Which we both want very much. Do you have any experience of having a relationship with a Chinese woman? She is a music teacher & educated. I had a profile on the CLM dating website. She contacted me first on this website after seeing my pictures & profile. I have attached a picture of my girlfriend. Regards John

        • No I don’t. But if things are going well between you two then I wouldn’t change it up because of her nationality. Keep getting to know her. Is she visiting you now?

          • John Marshall

            Hi Tripp As you may know It was not easy for my Chinese girlfriend to get a Visa to visit England. She needed many documents & a visit to the British Embassy in Beijing. She will be arriving in August. I Have been in communication before with other Chinese ladies.But I did not feel any real connection with them. I agree with your suggestion that when we meet to take small steps only. I am expected to kiss & hug her & cook & Share a bottle of wine together. Share fish n chips in the park. Do all the the activities at the beginning of a relationship. Let the feelings grow between each other. Holding hands & enjoying each others company. She considers me a Gentleman that would not force her to do anything she did not want to do. Chinese women are romantic & if you have been discussed with her parents it means she is very serious & has real feelings. If our Romance blossoms I will stay with her in Beijing China. Sex should come after love. Not just lust. I will tell you later how the time together went. Many western men want to date Asian women for many reasons. Communicate & finding out about her interests & her life experiences & about her family & friends. Let her know about your life & let her dream about what her life with you would be like.Regards John

          • Wow. That’s great. Good for you. I think it will go well for you. Good luck.

          • John Marshall

            Hi Tripp In the past I have dated & communicated with many women face to face & online. Often leaving many women in pain because I did not feel the way they did. I have self limited myself now to only two women. I do not go on dating web sites now. I refuse any contact with any other women. Yes it is good to have options & have less pressure in forming a relationship. In the end It is my choice in deciding who I wish to have a relationship with. As I will be in the company of my Chinese girlfriend first. She is the first option. knowing this means I can take time with each Girlfriend.

  • Garry Sid

    hey buddy what’s up. i like a girl,we met 2-3 times but due to some misunderstanding she blocked my number everything is sort out but i’m still blocked. we are talking on whatsapp but as a normal friends she knows that i l love her but she likes me as a person.i don’t know what should i do. please suggest me some advice. i wanna date her….

    • I understand you want to date her, but she’s not interested. If a girl blocks you on the phone and only likes you as a person, then it’s time to find a nicer one. There’s a lot to choose from out there.

  • John Marshall

    Hi Tripp From my experience the women sometimes seem to fall in love with me online. I have used Skype, WeChat, Facebook, E-mail. For me to fall in love I need to be with the woman face to face. I hear some men fall in love with a woman they have not met & only chat online with. I am interested in your opinion on people thinking they are in love with a person online? Can some men switch on a woman’s emotions & feelings without realizing they have this ability? I wonder if other men have had this experience of online dating?
    I remember one woman I was on Skype with for two hours. I had a message from this lady later. I am sorry but I not only like you, I am in love with you. Do you believe in love at first sight? Women are strange sometimes & frightening.

    • Lonely people are more susceptible to having feelings for someone that they’ve only met online. That’s why, after meeting someone online it’s best to meet in person asap because that’s where reality lies.

      • John Marshall

        I agree Tripp So many lonely men & women in the world. They may have many friends but they usually sleep alone. Having a relationship is what they want.

  • Ndumiso Makawa

    Hey Tripp. I’m a grade ten student. I come from a family that isn’t very wealthy. In other words, we are actually poor. I’m afraid of asking girls out because I have some sort of anxiety of being afraid of what they would think of me?. So I wanted to ask if I should just forget about dating and girls completely until Im older and get a job and hopefully do well for myself. This is something that I spend alot of time thinking about. Please help me.

    -that weird, socially awkward guy??

    • John Marshall

      Hi Ndumiso I would remove the pressure of asking girls for a date. Just begin communication in your class or school with any girl. Fear of rejection is very bad when you are young. I expect your class mates already see you as being shy & awkward. Are you into sports or do you have other interests. If you would like to learn to dance. Go to dance school. During the dancing you will get used to being in the company of girls. Stop trying to date a girl just learn to communicate with them. I was shy & awkward at school. Everything will change if you get over this barrier. If you do not you will continue with little understanding of how to communicate with a woman when you are a adult. Best wishes for future Success.

      • Ndumiso Makawa

        Thank you very much for the help John

    • Wait until you’re an adult to do adult things. For now, enjoy your time as a young person with few responsibilities, do your best in school, and have fun with your friends.

      • Ndumiso Makawa

        Thank you so much Tripp

  • Tim

    Hey Trip,
    Good job, i like your tips.
    I’ve got a question for you, Im getting a lot of likes on dating sites, and I know i should be creative or funny and personalize my messages so they feel that ive read their profile, but most of the time they have no information about them and their pictures are just plain with nothing to work with.
    Any opening lines you recommend? Im actually pretty good in picking up girls in real life but i kinda suck in texting.
    Ive watched your videos they are good but not helping in this situation

    • Yes, exactly what you just said. Tell them that they have no info about them and their pictures are plain and that you have nothing to work with. That’s a great opening line when you think about it.

  • John Marshall

    Hi Tripp My online Chinese Girlfriend is arriving on the 23rd of August in England. I am curious what it will be like going out with a lady from a different culture. Many questions will be answered, I suppose it depends on what type of women you are dating, I will only be able to write what it is like dating this one woman.

    • That sounds exciting. It is going to be very interesting, that’s for sure. Good luck to you both.

  • Tobi

    I text a girl and she likes to text “wyd” a lot at random times but sometimes respond after i reply. Not to mention she texts 20+ guys. What should i do?

    • John Marshall

      Hi Tobi My opinion. Be more entertaining than the other guys. Leave her wanting more from you. Do not reply quickly. You have a life. Women should want to be part of your life. If she does not realize you are the Alpha male. Then after a period of time drop her. Read Tripps advice on Texting. Grammar is important. Do not use a lower case I. Remember you are important. Never Chase.

      • Well said. Thanks for helping me out there John.

    • Engage her in conversation and use what I’ve been teaching you about that. Not sure how the last part about other guys she texts is relevant, not to mention, you can’t really know that without looking at her phone.

      • Joe Ruiz AtGallery


        • Joe Ruiz AtGallery

          Have a buddy that’s a bartender manager had drinks met one of the waitresses there we all went to hang out drank they did some nose candy we went back to her place drank some more had sex stayed for like two days she wanted me to stay left had to do some things texted a couple times then it’s went cold. I really like this one need advise

  • Rafael Antunes

    Hey, Tripp, I met this girl yesterday, but I didn’t get the chance to ask for her number (I’m a bit shy, and we didn’t get the chance to spent some time alone). I think she showed some interest in me, since she asked a lot of questions about myself, and she seemed a little bit nervous. So, I got her number from a girlfriend of hers. Do you think would be awkward if I asked her out? I mean, I don’t know when I’ll get another chance to ask for her number in person. Thanks!

    • Generally, it’s not ok to get a girl’s number from somebody other than her. What does it say about a guy who can’t ask the girl herself for her number? Nothing good. So I would wait until you see her again and ask for it. And if you can’t see her again, then text her, tell her who you are and see if it’s ok with her that you have her number.

  • Gaurav sharma

    Hey tripp,
    hanks bro for making me confident in approaching her. I used to love her for last 9 years and finally we met in a shop where i talked to her and ot her no. In front of mother.
    But the thing is that is shy.. and don’t talk to much. Even during the talk, she was like calm only replying little … yes giggling but didnt show that much intrest. But she gave her watsapp no. when i asked her for.
    Now can you plz tell me how to start a conversation on watsapp coz the first meeting wasn’t that much interactive… may be bcoz of her mom. i want her badly.
    I have waiting of this girl for sooooo long time and thats y dont wana ruin my chance. I dont know whether she has a boyfrnd or not. plz help me brother.!!

    • First find out if she’s single or not so you don’t waste your time trying to talk to a girl who’s already in a relationship. And if she is single, then start with what you have in common with her and go from there. Also, you need to change your mindset from scarcity to abundance and stop putting all your eggs in one basket and acting as if this girl is the only one in the world.

  • John Marshall

    Hi Tripp I noticed the young men leaving messages for you. They seem to be very innocent young men. To be honest they sound a bit creepy. To attract a real woman you should to be masculine & not be a beta male. Are they successful in life. Are they educated. Are you a person a woman would want to get to know mentally & physically. If you are it is easy. Men like this talk to many women.

    • John, you should join us in my private Facebook group called Tripp’s Corner. The guys are in there are smart, mature and funny. I think you will enjoy their company much better than the average commenter. Access to Tripp’s Corner comes with Hooked. Order it, become a member and join us.

  • John Marshall

    Hi Tripp I have noticed that my girlfriend keeps testing me. Maybe it is just a female way of finding out if he is the man he seems to be. Can you provide to men how to pass these tests. I am passing them but I expect the tests will get harder. Interestingly these tests are coming from my mainland Chinese girlfriend. I remain calm. But I am sure many men do not understand what their girlfriend is doing. When you have passed the tests their feelings get stronger. They then can open up to you.

    • By having something more important on your mind than worrying about what she’s thinking.

  • Hennry King

    so tripp i really need your help. i have this girl who i abslutly adore and shes told me that she likes me in more as a freind and iv tryed asking her out and tryed giveing her a quick kiss but every time i do she rejects it. but know she has gotten royaly pissed at me because i didnt talk to her the whole day becuase i was haveing a bad day. now i think i already know the answer but i dont want to belive it i feel like im being played and am in deniel about whats happening but i just needed some help from a professional like you (iv been following your yt since 2015 and iv picked up alot of skills) so what should i do cut my loses or try and fix things out because this girl is unlike any iv ever met and i dont want to miss the optertunity to be with such a 11 in my book please help

    • Henry, you need to work on yourself first and develop more skills for getting better with girls. Not accepting a girl’s rejection and thinking of her as “unlike anyone I’ve ever met” shows me that you have a lot to learn and need to get started soon. The good news is you’re in the right place. So sign up, become a member and join us in Tripp’s Corner to get this area handled once and for all.

  • andri

    i followed ur steps for taking her out.Thnx very great advices
    I was on a date with her and then every one went home
    how long should i wait to text her now and what i should text her
    at first the deal was to take her out
    now the deal is to make her yours
    thank you

    • You were on a date and then every one went home? What are your and her ages?

  • Joe Lee

    Hey Tripp,

    I feel I’m in this weird space of attraction/possible friend zone. I know she’s been interested in me before and think she still is somewhat but I can’t tell if she’s starting to see me as a friend. If I take too long to send a text or meet up with her, the window of attraction will be lost and she’ll forget about me. But what about the idea of doing my own thing and not being available to get out of the friend zone. Not sure which approach to take.

    • Take the approach that you think will work for now. And if that doesn’t work then try the other approach. Also, you don’t know if she will forget about you if you take too long to send a text or meet up with her. That’s your fear of loss making you feel insecure. Let that go and try something.

  • Krishna Chaitanya

    hey tripp,

    There’s a girl in my class, Got her number online and texted her without a direct talk. next day i went and talked to her and said ” it was me that texted” and we had a good talk, after few days i asked her ” shall we meet” and we went out for eating and she paid the bill.Problem is that we talk good for one day ,next day she doesn’t talk or reply to text late and following day again we’ll have a nice chat and the cycle continues. she doesn’t have BF or CRUSH. she doesn’t initiate unless or until i text her.Now, i’m confused whether she likes to talk with me or not?

    • It sounds like she “doesn’t mind” talking to you every now and then. Those times when she doesn’t talk to reply to you are probably when she simply doesn’t want to. And when she does, is when she doesn’t mind. If this is the case, then it means you’re not doing enough to attract her.

      • Krishna Chaitanya

        yesterday i meet her once again and we went our for eating, we order some food and shared it although she has her fork to eat the food she ate with the fork i ate with. what does that sign indicate??

  • Omar Morel

    What if the girl am trying to “close” with is a long distance away from me. it is more dificult to close with this girl , because od this and I picked her up on facebook and not in person. please help.

    • Long distance is not a problem these days. With technology, devices and the Internet and of course my advice, you have everything you need to get to know her, build the attraction and “close”.

  • Jay Ha

    Hey Tripp, been following your stuff as of late and I must admit its pretty good stuff! Recently, I found myself being “needy” with a lady whom I’ve been very real and upfront with. Both made intentions clear as to what we wanted, we texted every day and met up several times for lunch, hooked up every time, constant flirting that lead to nude pics and sexting. Until one day she mentioned she was talking to the X. I told her (like a moron) to work it out with him, but I’m still going to be around. Looking back at it now I fucked up. One of the last messages we’ve had she said she missed me and vice versa. Following day I told her “12:30. Tuesday. Lunch. That works right?” and she said “Yesssss”. That never happened and she ended up cancelling which I got angry over, and made it known to her (another mistake). Our texting and convos have died out since Wednesday 11/29. I felt myself becoming very “needy” and was placing too much value on this lady. What’s a good way of picking this back up? Or just use the method you recommend above?

    • Watch my video on Youtube called “How To Attract A Girl AFTER You Messed Up By Being “Needy”. It’ll answer all your questions and tell you what you should do next.

  • Harshavardhan Vaidya

    I’m interested in a girl hot girl on Instagram.I have friends who are friends but i never got to meet her personally.She has literally thousands of pursuers i believe.How do i start texting her over insta and get her number and eventually get her to meet me.How soon should i ask her out?

    • By commenting on her picture that you know something about, getting to know her better and have a reason for getting it, asking her if she would like to do something with you. All in due time. Be smart about it.

  • John Marshall

    Hi Tripp I tried helping a cousin of my partner to find a British man to chat with online & then meet & date. I advertised on a website asking for men to contact me if wishing to chat with a beautiful Filipina lady. I provided the ladies E-mail address after a man asked me for information. The lady copied the messages the man sent her & sent me them to read. His texting was very bad & he was creepy & crazy. He has no chance with becoming friends with this lady. Please learn to text well. You will lose out due to your lack of texting Ability.

  • Arjun Virk

    I asked the girl I was talking to on social media , we don’t know each other much but she started talking like she is interested , that what are your plans for future she said sry but I don’t share my personal life decisions with everyone. But in the beginning she replied like really quick and I replied to her texts after a while so that I don’t look desperate. What do u think how to get the conversation going and how to get her to like me and open up ?

    • Hi Arjun. Sorry to hear she isn’t open to sharing personal things with you. Your questions are answered in detail in my program Hooked ► Good luck.

  • Gideon Kho

    Hey Tripp! Your videos and blogs have been helpful!
    Anyway, I got a question. Me and the girl are not officially dating, yet we have spent time traveling together for total accumulated time of 2 months in these 4 months since we know each other, and yes, we have sex casually. Now we have to be separated for 4 months until our next mutual occasion because of our different nationalities. We have no other means of communication other than texting and phone call. After 2 weeks of texting she starts to cool down and stop replying. I understand my mistake after reading your blog, but it doesn’t change the fact that I can’t date her soon enough, or in this context, I can’t go for the CLOSE because it’s already done! In this 3.5 months, what’s the best thing I can do to make us stay connected? I am thinking about periodical texting and calls but please let me know if you have tips on the best way to do those or if you have any other suggestion.
    Thanks in advance!

    • Hey Gideon. To stay connected with her for these next few months, I would text and call her occasionally as you suggested. With today’s technology there are many other ways to stay connected with her as well that would be just as effective. Good luck.

      • Gideon Kho

        Thanks again! Your quick response is amazing!
        I have been looking up videos about keeping in touch in long distance relationship, but I found almost nothing! All suggestions I have found so far said that I shouldn’t look for long texting and I should just aim for the date, which contradicts in the case of long distance relationship. It would be awesome if you can make video about tips on how to keep the relationship interesting in the long distance relationship!

        • Already did. It’s called “How to make long distance relationships work”.

  • Mohammed Prìñçè

    I just now started a girl texting on fb n I want her to make close enough so that she can give her number we can move forward but the question arises that how to chase her on me so that she becomes interested in me???

    • Search for these videos on my channel ► How to text a girl on FB, how to get a girl to chase you and how to get a girl interested in you. There you go.

  • deee lp

    I’m trying to talk to this gorgeous girl n I need advice on exactly what to say to her like to say something that keeps her interest but not to sweet or showing her that im attracted through text . N I need advice on how to start off the conversation with her n keep it flowing. Can u tell me exact thing to say from you’re point of view?

  • Tobirama

    Hai Tripp , i have question..before that ,let me explain who she is..and what i know about her.

    I have known her for 4-5 years.
    mostly we only chat everyday *she did not want to answer my call mostly*.
    she is a ex-girlfriend of my closer friend , now we not friend anymore.
    she will get mad when i don’t text her at the first . sometimes she only seen *blueticks* my text and ignore me , no more than 24 hours she will text me back and be angry with me why i did not text her at first..

    what should i do ? how to restore such a situation? i feel like i was creepy/annoy for her..

    • First of all, 4-5 years is way too long to wait and see what will happen with a girl. You should’ve moved on a long time ago. Remember, if nothing happens with a girl for, at the most, a few months, then it’s better to stop waiting and meet new girls. How do you resort such a situation? Well it sounds like she was never interested so there is nothing to restore it to. Restore it to what? Here’s my advice; stop waiting and hoping for a girl who does not answer your calls, doesn’t text you back and was never interested before. Start over with yourself and with new girls. Good luck.

      • Tobirama

        I have no confidence to new girl other than her…even try to block her number and don’t text her at the first , but..i cant move on..please help me . i was being single to long because of her..

        • Start over with yourself and with new girls.

  • Steven Budiono

    hi tripp, i have a crush on a shy girl. she’s so shy that when i texted her she always answer so simple. i know she’s shy because she writes a blog, she writes that she’s shy with people that she havent been comfortable with and not talkative with them. I dont have confidence she will accept my date invitation if it was like this. Give her a call? im afraid she’ll think that i am a nuisance. can i have your opinion and tips to get her comfortable with me? my disadvantages: we cant meet everyday because distance (live on 1 city but different university), thanks man hope you would help me.

    • Hey Steven. Go to my Youtube channel and type “shy girl” in the search bar and you’ll find the videos I did all about how to talk to shy girls and get them out on a date. Also, watch the texting videos to learn how to get her to text you back. Good luck.

  • Ocean Wise Zebra

    Hey, I just got this girls number and I feel like I’m annoying her by asking tok many questions and when I asked her out she said “I’m moving too fast” so basically I feel like I’ve made a mess

  • Preston

    I met a girl over the summer at a college camp ( we are both high school juniors going into our senior years). We connected initially over geological rock samples (I know that sounds really dorky). I was able to cleverly snag her number right as she was getting picked up by her parents from the summer program. (I asked for a selfie with her, then asked what number to send it to). I’m just curious, after texting her about pressure cooker bombs ( we got to view a live explosive demo of terrorism IEDs like pipe bombs together) and after we found a common interest in the show Mythbusters, our conversations over text waned out as we lost things to talk about and I resorted to asking the dreaded interview questions. I am at an impasse as I don’t know how to advance my relationship with her.

    Now here’s the real kicker: we live about five hours apart on different ends of my state. So, should I put effort into continuing a relationship with her or should I abandon her like a lost cause? This conundrum has caused me a great deal of contemplation that results in a feedback loop of frustration.

    Note: we were both greatly interested in the university we were visiting and we may even be in the same classes for four years straight after high school.

    I don’t know what advice to expect from an online discussion board about dating, but I’m feeling like I’m scraping the bottom of the barrel here.

  • aneesh s

    Pls help me Tripp.. I’ve been texting with a girl for a month. She misses me, She wants me to text her at times, but she won’t express. How to make her express those feelings?

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  • Joe Ruiz AtGallery

    I had sex with this girl stayed at her place for two days everything was fine then it went cold she don’t respond

  • Ramen

    Hey Tripp, so I like this girl in high school. She starts the verbal conversation at schoo,talks a lot with me and she seems interested but never messages me, im the person that always starts the texting conversation. Then I tried your trick to know if she likes me over text by saying “hey we should hang out sometime” and responded she with a sure. Im still not sure if she likes me or not. Would you be able to help me on this?

    Also what could be some great conversation starters for texting and conversations?


  • Craig

    Hi Tripp I like this girl at work and I followed your texting advice and sent her text asking her if she want to catch up on the weekend
    She replied if I have)
    I really confused should I ask her what she mean does mean she is not interested in me

  • Kipras Berzinskas

    How do i text a girl that i know a 100.000% won’t like me. Do i just text her and just say hey?

    • If you know a girl won’t like it when you text her then it might not be a good idea to text her. Instead try changing how she feels by changing yourself and trying again. Better yet, change yourself and try again with a different girl. Good luck.

  • Tarun Kashyap

    Hey I found one of your video on Facebook and it landed me here
    I like a girl, she was my classmate in my school days, we already know each other, I’ve done everything I could to make her like me but you know what, my efforts doesn’t really help me.
    She always See’s me as a friend. (FRIEND ZONED)
    She talks to me nicely but, whenever I try to express my feelings for HER, she kind of shows no interest at the conversation at texting. I thinks she likes someone else.
    Once We lived in the same town, but now she had moved off to another city so I have not met her for 3 years now.
    how to get her to like me and ultimately meet me.
    The only means of communication between us is by chat.

    • Hey Tarun. 3 years is WAY too long to wait for a girl to come around. My suggestion is to stop waiting and move on with your life. Start with yourself then expand your social circle to include more girls. Good luck.

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